Wednesday, 28 December 2011


c.1200, "quality of being patient in suffering," from O.Fr. pacience, from L. patientia "patience, endurance," from patientem (nom. patiens), prp. of pati "to suffer, endure," from PIE base *pei- "to damage, injure, hurt" (see passion).
Patience n. A minor form of despair, disguised as a virtue. [Ambrose Bierce, "Devil's Dictionary," 1911]
Meaning "constancy in effort" is attested from 1510s. Meaning "card game for one person" is from 1816.

Tuesday, 27 December 2011

The Ghost of the Headless Horseman

The headless horseman was often seen here. An old man who did not believe in ghosts told of meeting the headless horseman coming from his trip into the Hollow. The horseman made him climb up behind. They rode over bushes, hills, and swamps. When they reached the bridge, the horseman suddenly turned into a skeleton. He threw the old man into the brook and sprang away over the treetops with a clap of thunder.

Sunday, 4 December 2011

Saturday, 3 December 2011


Circe transformed her enemies, or those who offended her, into animals through the use of magical potions. She was known for her knowledge of drugs and herbs.

Circe is described as living in a mansion that stands in the middle of a clearing in a dense wood. Around the house prowled strangely docile lions and wolves, the drugged victims of her magic; they were not dangerous, and fawned on all newcomers. Circe worked at a huge loom. She invited Odysseus' crew to a feast of familiar food, a pottage of cheese and meal, sweetened with honey and laced with wine, but also laced with one of her magical potions, and she turned them all into pigs with a wand after they gorged themselves on it.

Sunday, 20 November 2011


nemesis (nm-ss)
n. pl. nem·e·ses (-sz)
1. A source of harm or ruin: Uncritical trust is my nemesis.
2. Retributive justice in its execution or outcome: To follow the proposed course of action is to invite nemesis.
3. An opponent that cannot be beaten or overcome.
4. One that inflicts retribution or vengeance.
5. Nemesis Greek Mythology The goddess of retributive justice or vengeance.

In Greek mythology, Nemesis (Greek, Νέμεσις), also called Rhamnousia/Rhamnusia ("the goddess of Rhamnous") at her sanctuary at Rhamnous, north of Marathon, was the spirit of divine retribution against those who succumb to hubris (arrogance before the gods). The Greeks personified vengeful fate as a remorseless goddess: the goddess of revenge. The name Nemesis is related to the Greek word νέμειν [némein], meaning "to give what is due".[1] She was associated with the Roman Invidia.

Friday, 11 November 2011

Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions

Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions

Robert Plutchik created a wheel of emotions in 1980 which consisted of 8 basic emotions and 8 advanced emotions each composed of 2 basic ones.[1]

Basic emotion Basic opposite

Joy Sadness
Acceptance Disgust
Fear Anger
Surprise Anticipation

Saturday, 22 October 2011

Bullying (Definition)

defines bullying as:
‘persistent, offensive, abusive, intimidating, malicious or insulting behaviour, abuse of power or unfair penal sanctions, which makes the recipient feel upset, threatened, humiliated or vulnerable, which undermines their self-confidence
and which may cause them to suffer stress

‘ Where one person or persons engage in unwanted conduct in relation to another person which has the purpose or effect of violating that person’s
dignity or creating an intimidating, hostile, degrading, humiliating or offensive environment for that person’

Jungian Cognitive Functions

Jungian cognitive functions
From Wikipedia,

In some forms of psychological testing, particularly those related to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, the cognitive functions (sometimes known as mental functions) are defined as different ways of perceiving and judging the world. They are defined as "thinking", "feeling", "sensing" and "intuition".

Thursday, 20 October 2011

Declaration of Independence

When a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security”

The Declaration of Independence

Saturday, 8 October 2011

Demon as a Guiding Spirit (Lesser God)

c.1200, from L. daemon "spirit," from Gk. daimon "deity, divine power; lesser god; guiding spirit, tutelary deity" (sometimes including souls of the dead); "one's genius, lot, or fortune;" from PIE *dai-mon- "divider, provider" (of fortunes or destinies), from base *da- "to divide" (see tide). Used (with daimonion) in Christian Greek translations and Vulgate for "god of the heathen" and "unclean spirit." Jewish authors earlier had employed the Greek word in this sense, using it to render shedim "lords, idols" in the Septuagint, and Matt. viii.31 has daimones, translated as deofol in O.E., feend or deuil in Middle English. Another O.E. word for this was hellcniht, lit. "hell-knight." The original mythological sense is sometimes written daemon for purposes of distinction. The Demon of Socrates was a daimonion, a "divine principle or inward oracle." His accusers, and later the Church Fathers, however, represented this otherwise. The Demon Star (1895) is Algol.

Beware of the Martians

Mars has two known satellites, Phobos and Deimos ("fear" and "panic", after attendants of Ares, the Greek god of war, equivalent to the Roman Mars). Searches for more satellites have been unsuccessful, putting the maximum radius of any other satellites at 90 m (100 yd)

In Greek mythology, Deimos (Ancient Greek: Δεῖμος, pronounced [dêːmos], meaning "dread") was the personification of terror.

Phobos (Ancient Greek Φόβος, pronounced [pʰóbos], meaning "terror") is the personification of horror in Greek mythology. He is the offspring of Ares and Aphrodite. He was known for accompanying Ares into battle along with his brother, Deimos, the goddess Enyo, and his father’s attendants. Timor is his Roman equivalent. Considering the accounts in Greek mythology, Phobos is more of a personification of the fear brought by war and does not appear as an actual character in any mythology.

Thursday, 6 October 2011

On who to hang out with…

On who to hang out with…
Don’t hang around with people who are negative and who are not supportive of your writing. Make friends with writers so that you have a community. Hopefully, your community of writer friends will be good and they’ll give you good feedback and good criticism on your writing but really the best way to be a writer is to be a writer.

by A Burroughs

Tuesday, 4 October 2011

Self Domain (Tidal Model)

The Self Domain is the private place where the person lives. Here the person experiences thoughts, feelings, beliefs, values, ideas etc, which are known only to the person. In this private world the distress called ’mental illness’ is first experienced. All people keep much of their private world secret, only revealing to others what they wish them to know. This is why people are often such a ‘mystery’ to us, even when they are close friends or relatives.

In the Tidal Model the Self domain becomes the focus of our attempts to help the person feel more ‘safe and secure’; where we try to help the person address and begin to deal with the private fears, anxieties and other threats to emotional stability, which are related to specific problems of living. The main focus is to develop a ‘bridging’ relationship and to help the person develop a meaningful Personal Security Plan. This work becomes the basis of the development of the person’s ‘self-help’ programme, which will sustain the person on return to everyday life.

Tidal Model (Nursing Care)

"The Tidal Model, give me some hope to fantasise about a future where there are no DSM's, ICD's, scales, screens and inventories. A future where we are listened to, and responded to individually, with respect for our rich and varied frames of reference"

The Self Domain –
focuses on the person’s experience of crisis and emphasizes the need for them to feel safe.

The World Domain –
emphasizes the person’s need to be understood.

The Others Domain –
focuses on the type and nature of support the person might need from other people, professionals and agencies in order to live an ordinary life.

Thursday, 29 September 2011

A description of the INTP Personality Type by Peter James

A description of the INTP Personality Type
by Peter James

The INTP is above all a thinker and his inner (private) world is a place governed by a strong sense of logical structure. Every experience is to be rigorously analysed, the task of the INTP's mind is to fit each encountered idea or experience into a larger structure defined by logic. For here is the central goal of the INTP: to understand and seek truth.

INTPs are collectors, but they are collecters for whom the objects themselves are only important in so far as they evoke a connection to past events, in so far as they yield a nostalgic mood. The curious problem with any collection of an INTP is that he typically fails to enjoy it in the here and now. Items are stored away so that they can evoke this time at some point in the future, but such a point often never occurs. It may never occur because INTPs are always so mentally active that they continually delve into new interests, and continue to hoard items relating to these, so that they rarely allow themselves enough time to reflect on the ever expanding library of their past. The interests of an INTP would be enough to occupy him for several lifetimes if that were possible.

Monday, 19 September 2011

Social Cognitive Theory

Social cognitive theory, used in psychology, education, and communication, posits that portions of an individual's knowledge acquisition can be directly related to observing others within the context of social interactions, experiences, and outside media influences.

Perseus System calls this the Wolf Theory.

Moral competencies include:
what an individual is capable of
what an individual knows
what an individual's skills are
an individual's awareness of moral rules and regulations
an individual's cognitive ability to construct behaviours

As far as an individual's development is concerned, moral competence is the growth of cognitive-sensory processes; simply put, being aware of what is considered right and wrong. By comparison, moral performance is influenced by the possible rewards and incentives to act a certain way. For example, a person's moral competence might tell them that stealing is wrong and frowned upon by society; however, if the reward for stealing is a substantial sum, their moral performance might indicate a different line of thought. Therein lies the core of social cognitive theory.

Persues system is that the different cognitive methods employed by different personalities influence how they sense the world which is reflected in their behaviour and their moral competencies.

Saturday, 17 September 2011

The Absurd

In philosophy, "The Absurd" refers to the conflict between the human tendency to seek value and meaning in life and the human inability to find any. In this context absurd does not mean "logically impossible," but rather "humanly impossible."[1] The universe and the human mind do not each separately cause the Absurd, but rather, the Absurd arises by the contradictory nature of the two existing simultaneously.
Absurdism, therefore, is a philosophical school of thought stating that the efforts of humanity to find inherent meaning will ultimately fail (and hence are absurd) because the sheer amount of information, including the vast unknown, makes certainty impossible. As a philosophy, absurdism also explores the fundamental nature of the Absurd and how individuals, once becoming conscious of the Absurd, should react to it.

Hasty Generalization

Hasty generalization is a logical fallacy of faulty generalization by reaching an inductive generalization based on insufficient evidence — essentially making a hasty conclusion without considering all of the variables. In statistics, it may involve basing broad conclusions regarding the statistics of a survey from a small sample group that fails to sufficiently represent an entire population. Its opposite fallacy is called slothful induction, or denying the logical conclusion of an inductive argument (i.e. "it was just a coincidence").

Monday, 12 September 2011


Fallacy of composition
The fallacy of composition arises when one infers that something is true of the whole from the fact that it is true of some part of the whole (or even of every proper part). For example: "This fragment of metal cannot be broken with a hammer, therefore the machine of which it is a part cannot be broken with a hammer." This is clearly fallacious, because many machines can be broken into their constituent parts without any of those parts being breakable.

This fallacy is often confused with the fallacy of hasty generalization, in which an unwarranted inference is made from a statement about a sample to a statement about the population from which it is drawn.

The fallacy of composition is the converse of the fallacy of division.

Thursday, 8 September 2011

Wolves and Dogs (Learning)

Dogs tend to be poorer than Wolves at observational learning, being more responsive to instrumental conditioning

Observational learning (also known as vicarious learning, social learning, or modelling) is a type of learning that occurs as a function of observing, retaining and replicating novel behaviour executed by others. It is argued that reinforcement has the effect of influencing which responses one will partake in, more than it influences the actual acquisition of the new response.

Operant conditioning is a form of psychological learning where an individual modifies the occurrence and form of its own behavior due to the association of the behaviour with a stimulus. Operant conditioning is distinguished from classical conditioning (also called respondent conditioning) in that operant conditioning deals with the modification of "voluntary behaviour" or operant behavior. Operant behaviour "operates" on the environment and is maintained by its consequences, while classical conditioning deals with the conditioning of reflexive (reflex) behaviours which are elicited by antecedent conditions. Behaviours conditioned via a classical conditioning procedure are not maintained by consequences

Learning theory (education)

Sunday, 4 September 2011


In the last decades of the 20th century, the word "stakeholder" has become more commonly used to mean a person or organization that has a legitimate interest in a project or entity. In discussing the decision-making process for institutions—including large business corporations, government agencies, and non-profit organizations -- the concept has been broadened to include everyone with an interest (or "stake") in what the entity does. This includes not only its vendors, employees, and customers, but even members of a community where its offices or factory may affect the local economy or environment. In this context, "stakeholder" includes not only the directors or trustees on its governing board (who are stakeholders in the traditional sense of the word) but also all persons who "paid in" the figurative stake and the persons to whom it may be "paid out" (in the sense of a "payoff" in game theory, meaning the outcome of the transaction).

Idealism (attitudes to)

Idealism is not necessarily condemned. However, the Guardians in Society (45% of people) follow the dictates of authority and idealists are often counter to the establishment. Rationals (5%) do not like ideals either because they work within the system. Even Idealists are selective as well and may not like the ideals of a rival group. The Crazies (5%) do not like ideals because they are two idiotic to understand.But it still leaves a % of the population that will follow ideals. However, some of these people are flighty and their support will not be sustained. Artisans (25%) are too busy on their own projects to bother about the Ideals of another. So the thinking of other personalities do not fit in.

It gets worse as even the most sensible people, or probably the sensible people, just suspect a vested interest. An agenda and an ulterior motive. This does communicate very well.;_ylc=X3oDMTZtMTU0ZzdjBElfYWd1aWQDVFlBU1lIRUJLNktNNEFNTTZLRDMzVlZWMkEESV9jZ3VpZAMESV9jcHJvcAMxMDEESV9sdHMDMTMxNDk4MzE3OARJX3VjbnR4AwRJX3VzcmMDeS51ay5hbnN3ZXJzBElfdXN1aWQDMjAxMTA5MDIwODEyNTNBQVNsczdYXzU2YjAxMTM4MWE5YWFhOTBkM2Q1ODZkNWMxZDVmY2I4YWEESV91dHlwZQNhbnN3ZXIEX1MDMjAyMzQzNTI2MQRleHBJRAMxMDAEeGZvcm1JRAM-?qid=20110902081253AASls7X&answerer=56b011381a9aaa90d3d586d5c1d5fcb8aa&hash=0b4c4c3a2e5c3b7e1db7753d43fbed60cca1b07133e2802f578d860298153351

A Personal Contract

Personal contract is a contract that binds a person but does not include such person's heirs or assignees since the contract requires a personal performance that does not have an adequate substitute


Coercion (pronounced /koʊˈɜrʃən/) is the practice of forcing another party to behave in an involuntary manner (whether through action or inaction) by use of threats, rewards, or intimidation or some other form of pressure or force. In law, coercion is codified as the duress crime. Such actions are used as leverage, to force the victim to act in the desired way. Coercion may involve the actual infliction of physical pain/injury or psychological harm in order to enhance the credibility of a threat. The threat of further harm may lead to the cooperation or obedience of the person being coerced. Torture is one of the most extreme examples of coercion i.e. severe pain is inflicted until the victim provides the desired information.

Social Contract Theory

The social contract is an intellectual device intended to explain the appropriate relationship between individuals and their governments. Social contract arguments assert that individuals unite into political societies by a process of mutual consent, agreeing to abide by common rules and accept corresponding duties to protect themselves and one another from violence and other kinds of harm.

Social contract theory played an important historical role in the emergence of the idea that political authority must be derived from the consent of the governed. The starting point for most social contract theories is a heuristic examination of the human condition absent from any political order, usually termed the “state of nature”. In this condition, individuals' actions are bound only by their personal power and conscience. From this shared starting point, social contract theorists seek to demonstrate, in different ways, why a rational individual would voluntarily give up his or her natural freedom to obtain the benefits of political order.

Personal Contracts

The most fundamental social right is to refuse a personal contract. Manipulation requires to hide a part of that contract, therefore to deprive one's right to refuse that part (by ignorance). The fact that most of us manipulate others is an irrevelant ad populum, and good intentions are not justice, obviously. Novels manipulate readers, but it's a visible part of the tacit contract.. it's self-manipulation. About childs (and adults), there's not such a contract as long as they can't understand its nature. But manipulating them can eventually impede their moral development, thus violating the (disputable) right to develop their natural potential.

Written by "IDontThinkSo"

Saturday, 20 August 2011

Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

I watched as the Lamb opened the first of the seven seals. Then I heard one of the four living creatures say in a voice like thunder, "Come and see!" I looked, and there before me was a white horse! Its rider held a bow, and he was given a crown, and he rode out as a conqueror bent on conquest.
— Revelation 6:1-2˄ NIV

When the Lamb opened the second seal, I heard the second living creature say, "Come and see!" Then another horse came out, a fiery red one. Its rider was given power to take peace from the earth and to make men slay each other. To him was given a large sword.
— Revelation 6:3-4˄ NIV

When the Lamb opened the third seal, I heard the third living creature say, "Come and see!" I looked, and there before me was a black horse! Its rider was holding a pair of scales in his hand. Then I heard what sounded like a voice among the four living creatures, saying, "A quart of wheat for a day's wages, and three quarts of barley for a day's wages, and do not damage the oil and the wine!"
— Revelation 6:5-6˄ NIV

When the Lamb opened the fourth seal, I heard the voice of the fourth living creature say, "Come and see!" I looked and there before me was a pale horse! Its rider was named Death, and Hades was following close behind him. They were given power over a fourth of the earth to kill by sword, famine and plague, and by the wild beasts of the earth.
— Revelation 6:7-8˄ NIV

Streams of Consciousness is ISFP stuff

Streams of Consciousness is ISFP stuff. I heard it from Virginia Cat.

(Metaphorical INTP reply, what else can you expect? Favourite of PNIT.)

Anyrate the Ouroboros does not approve.

Tuesday, 16 August 2011

Unfortunate Circumstances

Unfortunate Circumstances

Originally Posted by TigerCookie
Hello! I would appreciate some clarity from others with a stronger grasp of the Enneagram and MBTI than I myself have. I am interested in the possibility that a trauma, such as the death of one's mother or father, at a formative age, could possibly impact or shift the 'core' personality of an individual. This is an abstract question, but it is, of course, precipitated by personal events in my life. I am looking forward to any insight people can provide, either from materials they have read or personal experience. Thanks so much.
A very good question which I have posed.

I suspect that that severe trauma could result in a dissociate identity which is virtually a mental illness (and may appear so to others). The person will not be acting true to their deep personality. He or she will appear like a cariacture, a false actor, not the real self.

I suspect that the ingrained type is so ingrained that people can change their behaviour, but deep in their core, their real personality is still there. Naturally, the personality would return to homostatis. However, under prolonged stress the "false" personality will remain.

Grief usually goes through a process and would not likely to be the reason. More likely, prolonged bullying, a toxic marriage, overbearing authority figures (to some personalities), opposite types, a bad boss, persecution etc. could lead to a person behaving in a way that was uncomfortable to them.

This is from personal experience, not from theory.




Definition: having a lack of respect for God or religion or an act that demonstrates this

Synonyms: irreverence, godlessness, sacrilege, blasphemy

Antonyms: reverence, respect, devotion

Tips: Impiety is the negative of piety which comes from Latin pietas, from pius, “devout.” Add the negative im-, "not" to piety, and impiety becomes disrespect of religion, or simply disrespect. Sometimes impiety can refer to a lack of respect or reverence for something other than religion. Impiety comes from the same Latin origin as pious and impious. Impious is the adjective form of impiety and is used to describe the actions of someone who is not respectful of religion.

Usage Examples:

Such impiety will not be tolerated here, where we always show respect for our elders. (disrespect, irreverence)
Her impiety caused her to be ostracized by members of the church. (blasphemy)
I thought it was impious of him to wear ripped jeans and a dirty shirt to church. (disrespectful, sacrilegious) adjective

In the 1500's, the church accused him of impiety and had all his writings burned. (sacrilege, blasphemy)

Ouroboros (Cycles and Re-creation)

The Ouroboros (or Uroborus)[1] is an ancient symbol depicting a serpent or dragon eating its own tail. It comes from the Greek words oura (Greek οὐρά) meaning "tail" and boros (Greek βόρος) meaning "eating", thus "he who eats the tail".[2]

The Ouroboros often represents self-reflexivity or cyclicality, especially in the sense of something constantly re-creating itself, the eternal return, and other things perceived as cycles that begin anew as soon as they end (the mythical phoenix has a similar symbolism). It can also represent the idea of primordial unity related to something existing in or persisting before any beginning with such force or qualities it cannot be extinguished. The ouroboros has been important in religious and mythological symbolism, but has also been frequently used in alchemical illustrations, where it symbolizes the circular nature of the alchemist's opus. It is also often associated with Gnosticism, and Hermeticism.

IPTN the Dylanesque artistic sub-type.

Witch Hazel

The name Witch in witch-hazel has its origins in Middle English wiche, from the Old English wice, meaning "pliant" or "bendable".[5] "Witch hazel" was used in England as a synonym for Wych Elm, Ulmus glabra;[6] American colonists simply extended the familiar name to the new shrub.[citation needed] The use of the twigs as divining rods, just as hazel twigs were used in England, may also have, by folk etymology, influenced the "witch" part of the name.

Forms: OE wice, wic, wyc, ME–16 wyche, 15–17 wich, (15 wi(t)che, wiech, wech(e, weach, 16 weech), 15– wych, witch.... (Show More)
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Applied generally or vaguely to various trees having pliant branches: esp.
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†a. the wych elm n., Ulmus montana (of which bows were made).


Forms: ME– vice(ME–15 Sc.wice), ME–15 vyce(ME–15 Sc.wyce); ME vise, wise, wisse; ME vys, vijs( vyhs, Sc.vis), 15 vyss, Sc.wys.... (Show More)
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a. Depravity or corruption of morals; evil, immoral, or wicked habits or conduct; indulgence in degrading pleasures or practices.


Saturday, 13 August 2011

Walls of Red Wing + High Water Everywhere

There is an invisible Wall. Some social scientists say it is cultures, some say it is personalities and I expect it is a mixture of the two.

And the walls came down all the way to hell
Never saw them when they're standing
Never saw them when they fell

There is not much to choose between the many monotheistic religions though.

Well, George Lewis told the Englishman,
the Italian and the Jew"
You can't open your mind, boys
To every conceivable point of view.
"They got Charles Darwin trapped out there on Highway Five
Judge says to the High Sheriff,
"I want him dead or alive
Either one, I don't care.
"High Water everywhere

More lyrics:

There aint no more opportunity here, everythings been done

Next day the undercover cop was hot in pursuit
He was taking the whole thing personal
He didn't care about the loot
Jan had told him many times it was you to me who taught
In jersey anythings legal as long as you don't get caught

Now the town of jersey city is quieting down again
Im sitting in a gambling club called the lions den
The tv set been blown up, every bit of it is gone
Ever since the nightly news show that the monkey man was on

Friday, 12 August 2011

I had a Dream about you Baby

Some scientists believe we dream to fix experiences in long-term memory, that is, we dream about things worth remembering. Others reckon we dream about things worth forgetting - to eliminate overlapping memories that would otherwise clog up our brains.

Thursday, 11 August 2011

Pyro Firestarter

Types of arson motives identified are (1) pyromania, 10.1 percent; (2) revenge, 52.9 percent; (3) vandalism, 12.3 percent; (4) insurance fraud, 6.55 percent; (5) welfare fraud, 6.55 percent; (6) the psycho firesetter, 8.7 percent; and (7) crime concealment, 2.9 percent. The pyro firesetter usually sets the fire in an occupied multiple dwelling at night in a public portion of the building, usually on the floor and using a flammable liquid for one fire rather than multiple fires. The revenge firesetter, who often threatens arson prior to the act, will focus on the residence or a building associated with the targeted victim. Flammable liquid is used to start one or multiple fires. The vandal arsonist targets occupied multiple dwellings as well as commercial buildings, schools, jails, churches, and abandoned buildings. Night is the favorite time and the first floor is preferred for starting the fire. Arson for insurance is obviously committed on insured property, and the fire is designed to provide complete devastation. Welfare fraud fires are usually set in the residence of the perpetrator after all valuable property has been removed, and the crime concealment arsonist is usually concealing a burglary, and existing paper at one spot on the floor is generally used. The psycho arsonist usually sets the fire in his own residence and customarily starts one small fire without the use of an accelerant. A taxonomy is provided to show the fuel, circumstances, and origin for various types of arson motives. Fifteen references and nine footnotes are provided.

Monday, 8 August 2011

Police Correctness

"Lord Scarman made the point that if the police have a conflict between maintaining the Queen's peace and enforcing the law then maintaining the peace trumps enforcing the law," said Prof Waddington.

"It's also worth noting that when a police officer is sworn in as a constable the oath they take says nothing about enforcing the law. They are not duty-bound to enforce the law.

Friday, 5 August 2011

Two Wolves

A grandfather was talking to his grandson about how he felt.
He said, "I feel as if I have two wolves fighting in my heart.
One wolf is the vengeful, angry, violent one.
The other wolf is the loving, compassionate one."
The grandson asked him,
"Which wolf will win the fight in your heart?"
The grandfather answered, "The one I feed."

Thursday, 4 August 2011

DISC Assessment

Dominance: People who score high in the intensity of the "D" styles factor are very active in dealing with problems and challenges, while low "D" scores are people who want to do more research before committing to a decision. High "D" people are described as demanding, forceful, egocentric, strong willed, driving, determined, ambitious, aggressive, and pioneering. Low D scores describe those who are conservative, low keyed, cooperative, calculating, undemanding, cautious, mild, agreeable, modest and peaceful.
Influence: People with high "I" scores influence others through talking and activity and tend to be emotional. They are described as convincing, magnetic, political, enthusiastic, persuasive, warm, demonstrative, trusting, and optimistic. Those with low "I" scores influence more by data and facts, and not with feelings. They are described as reflective, factual, calculating, skeptical, logical, suspicious, matter of fact, pessimistic, and critical.
Steadiness: People with high "S" styles scores want a steady pace, security, and do not like sudden change. High "S" individuals are calm, relaxed, patient, possessive, predictable, deliberate, stable, consistent, and tend to be unemotional and poker faced. Low "S" intensity scores are those who like change and variety. People with low "S" scores are described as restless, demonstrative, impatient, eager, or even impulsive.
Compliance: People with high "C" styles adhere to rules, regulations, and structure. They like to do quality work and do it right the first time. High "C" people are careful, cautious, exacting, neat, systematic, diplomatic, accurate, and tactful. Those with low "C" scores challenge the rules and want independence and are described as self-willed, stubborn, opinionated, unsystematic, arbitrary, and unconcerned with details.


Wednesday, 27 July 2011



The fief (alternatively, fee, feoff, fiefdom) or feudum (in Latin), under the system of medieval European feudalism, often consisted of inheritable lands or revenue-producing property granted by a lord to a vassal who held seisin in return for a form of allegiance, usually given by homage and fealty. Not only land but anything of value could be held in fief, such as an office, a right of exploitation (e.g., hunting, fishing) or any other type of revenue, rather than the land it comes from.

fief·dom (ffdm)
1. The estate or domain of a feudal lord.
2. Something over which one dominant person or group exercises control: "long the independent head of a powerful fiefdom within the Police Department" (David Burnham).

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company.

For example, let's say you can hardly bear the thought of going in to your job every day, reporting to someone who has a fraction of your talent, intelligence, creativity...or whatever.

Let's say that on top of that, this person is rather obnoxious and all too eager to wield the power of his or her petty feifdom, and probably not to your benefit (ask me how I know...;)

Maybe this individual you report to in your 9-5 job is more concerned about feeding their ego and maintaining an inflated sense of importance, at your expense.

Your stomach starts churning just thinking about it.

In fact, let's be honest: Maybe this is utterly disgusting and insulting to you and your sense of dignity.

Thursday, 9 June 2011


blackguard, n. and adj.

Pronunciation: /ˈblægəd/

Forms: (Written 15–17 as two words, 16–17 with hyphen, 17–18 as one word.)(Show Less)

Etymology: lit. Black Guard, concerning the original application of which there is some doubt. It is possible that senses A. 1, A. 2 began independently of each other; or the one may have originated in a play upon the other, black being taken with a different sense; it would be difficult to assign priority to either. It is even possible that there may have been a guard of soldiers at Westminster called the Black Guard, or that, as some suggest, the attendants or torch-bearers at a funeral, or the link-boys of the streets, may have had this name.(Show Less)

The lowest menials of a royal or noble household, who had charge of pots and pans and other kitchen utensils, and rode in the wagons conveying these during journeys from one residence to another; the scullions and kitchen-knaves. Obs.

The vagabond, loafing, or criminal class of a community; the blackguardry. Obs.

Such who are commonly known by the Name of the Black-guard, who too commonly lived upon Pilfering Sugars and Tobacco's on the Keys, and afterwards became Pick-pockets and House-breakers.

Of or pertaining to the dregs of the community; of low, worthless character; brutally vicious or scurrilous; blackguardly.


blag [blæg] Slang


a robbery, esp with violence

vb blags, blagging, blagged (tr)

1. to obtain by wheedling or cadging she blagged free tickets from her mate

2. to snatch (wages, someone's handbag, etc.); steal

3. to rob (esp a bank or post office)

[of unknown origin]

blagger n

Monday, 30 May 2011

Relational Abuse

Relational Abuse

Betrayal – Where the abuser breaks agreements with the victim.
Exclusion/Solitude – Where the abuser prevents the victim from socializing with the abuser's friends.
Gossip – Where the abuser tells others personal information about the victim.
Humiliation – Where the abuser humiliates or shames the victim in front of others.
Lies – Where the abuser lies about the victim to others.

Sunday, 29 May 2011

Out on the Tiles (for the Book)

Dream sequence, not so much "out on the tiles" but crawling over a flimsy superstructure without any walls and somebody else wanted to join me. "Get off!" I shouted, the whole Edifice will collapse.

edifice | edfs | n. LME. [(O)Fr. edifice f. L aedificium, f. aedis, aedes (see next) + -fic- var. of fac- stem of facere make.] 1 A building, esp. a large and stately one; fig. a large and complex construction (freq. abstract). LME. 2 The process of building; architectural style. L16-M17.
1 H. JAMES He had been livingin an edifice of red brick, with granite copings and an enormous fan-light over the door. R. M. PIRSIG One logical slip and an entire scientific edifice comes tumbling down.

Excerpted from The Oxford Interactive Encyclopedia
Developed by The Learning Company, Inc. Copyright (c) 1997 TLC Properties Inc.

Monday, 23 May 2011

Right to Privacy

"Every individual has a right to privacy comprising:

(a) a right to be free from harassment and molestation; and

(b) a right to privacy of personal information, communications, and documents."

The Younger Committee in 1970 stated that:

"privacy is a basic need, essential to the development and maintenance both of a free society and of a mature and stable individual personality."

But the Younger Committee thought that a general right of privacy would create uncertainty. Instead of creating a general right, they took the view that:

"[the] best way to ensure regard for privacy is to provide specific and effective sanctions against clearly defined activities which unreasonably frustrate the individual in his search for privacy."

The principal areas of complaint with regard to intrusions into privacy were identified by the Younger Committee as:

(a) unwanted publicity - by the press and broadcasting

(b) misuse of personal information - By e.g. banks, employers, educational institutions (student records), credit rating agencies

(c) intrusions on home life - E.g. neighbours, landlords, press.

(d) intrusion in business life - E.g. industrial espionage including trade secrets

To these listed may also be added in the public sector such matters as:

(a) intrusion in the course of the administration of the criminal law

(b) the misuse of information held by public authorities

Tuesday, 17 May 2011

Thoughts on Personality

Thoughts on Personality
If you stick too much to your own personality, you fall victim to the limits of type. However, if I depart too far from type I become unhappy and even small departures e,g. from INTP to ENTJ incurs a terrible amount of stress. To behave like an ESFJ would drive me CRAZY. I am not cut out to be a Guard or a White Van Driver.

Tuesday, 3 May 2011

Corporation Gang Stalking

What is Gang Stalking?

A Simple Definition

Under Occupational Health and Safety laws, individuals are being flagged and placed on community notification lists. This is happening without the targets knowledge. In many countries these community notifications are being used by companies and others to target innocent individuals such as whistle-blowers, the outspoken, etc. In conjunction with these notifications, companies and others are in some cases using a practice that was used in the former soviet union called the psychiatric reprisal. This is used as a means of retaliation, blacklisting, silencing, or controlling members of society. Once on the notification system, warnings about the targets are sent out to every individual the target comes in contact with, thus poisoning their associations, and socially annexing the targeted individual.


The lictor (possibly from Latin: ligare, "to bind") was a member of a special class of Roman civil servant, with special tasks of attending and guarding magistrates of the Roman Republic and Empire who held imperium, the right and power to command; essentially, a bodyguard.

A minder. Turn the Minder against the renegade King.

Wednesday, 6 April 2011


man·date (mndt)
1. An authoritative command or instruction.
2. A command or an authorization given by a political electorate to its representative.
a. A commission from the League of Nations authorizing a member nation to administer a territory.
b. A region under such administration.
4. Law
a. An order issued by a superior court or an official to a lower court.
b. A contract by which one party agrees to perform services for another without payment.
tr.v. man·dat·ed, man·dat·ing, man·dates
1. To assign (a colony or territory) to a specified nation under a mandate.
2. To make mandatory, as by law; decree or require: mandated desegregation of public schools.


[Latin mandtum, from neuter past participle of mandre, to order; see man-2 in Indo-European roots.]

Tuesday, 5 April 2011


Moclobemide: an anti-depressant drug that does not seem to have the side effects of the ones most often prescribed

Monday, 4 April 2011

Feeling Culture

Feelings are facts: you feel what you feel. It doesn't have to be reasonable, justified, or what other people feel. Feelings do not have brains. They are not logical! Part of recovery is learning what you do feel so you can take care of yourself. Trying to take care of yourself without knowing what you feel is like trying to budget without knowing your income.

Feelings are not facts: Emotional reasoning is a distorted way of thinking common in our society: I feel it therefore it is true. I feel hurt therefore he/ she meant to hurt me. I feel guilty therefore I am guilty. Many of us tend to feel hurt by or guilty about everything. It comes with our culture, but we don't have to believe it.

Five Stages of Recovery for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

There are five stages of recovery for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

The first stage is called the “emergency” or outcry stage. The

victim’s responses are very intense and run at high levels where they feel the “fight or flight” response come over them when faced with a life-threatening situation. Their feelings can last as long as the victim feels this situation is still present. These victims can display physical signs such as rapid breathing, rapid pulse, and elevated blood pressure. Muscle movements are usually still increased. Feelings of fear and helplessness overtake their bodies. When the situation has ended, the victim is truly relieved, but very confused as to what occurred and why.

The next phase is the emotional numbing and denial phase. In this phase the survivor protects themselves by denying these emotions and trying to forget them. They avoid emotion to eliminate anxiety and stress they are feeling. Many victims cannot remove themselves from this state and may remain in it throughout their lives without professional assistance.

The third phase is called the “intrusive-repetitive” phase. The survivors now have nightmares, can have volatile mood swings and intrusive images, and display higher startle responses. They may go into an antisocial stage to be used as an internal defense mechanism as to not have to relive the trauma. Mandated professional help may be required if the survivor has become so overwhelmed with stress that they can no longer cope.

The fourth phase is “reflective – transition”. In this phase the survivor has a larger picture of the events and moves forward with a positive and constructive outcome and do not look back on the negative. This could be called the healing process as they are able to deal with the issues constructively and confront the trauma head on.

The final stage is the integration phase. In this fifth stage the survivor has succeeded in overcoming the trauma and past experiences. They can now move forward by placing the trauma securely in the past and can regain peace within themselves.

Reprinted with permission of Vancleave, D. M. (2007).

Extracted (for research purposes) from the following web page:


Synchronicity is the experience of two or more events, that are apparently causally unrelated or unlikely to occur together by chance, that are observed to occur together in a meaningful manner. The concept of synchronicity was first described by Swiss psychologist Carl Gustav Jung in the 1920s.[1]

The concept does not question, or compete with, the notion of causality. Instead, it maintains that just as events may be grouped by cause, they may also be grouped by their meaning. Since meaning is a complex mental construction, subject to conscious and unconscious influence, not every correlation in the grouping of events by meaning needs to have an explanation in terms of cause and effect.

cf. memes

Saturday, 2 April 2011

Monday, 21 March 2011

Fare to Australia (Dorset Martyrs)

God is our guide! from field, from wave,
From plough, from anvil, and from loom;
We come, our country's rights to save,
And speak a tyrant faction's doom:
We raise the watch-word liberty;
...We will, we will, we will be free!

Friday, 18 March 2011

Desire and Sacrifice

"There's a lion in the road, there's a demon escaped,

There's a million dreams gone,

there's a landscape being raped ..."

"Horseplay and disease is killing me by degrees

while the law looks the other way."

"The truth was obscure, too profound and too pure,

to live it you had to explode.

"In that last hour of need, we entirely agreed,

sacrifice was the code of the road.

I left town at dawn, with Marcel and St. John,

strong men belittled by doubt."
(Bob Dylan)

People get addicted to what makes them happy (gives them a thrill, buzz or they think it makes them happy not knowing an alternative): despots, social workers, heroin addicts, alcoholics, do-gooders, sadists, masochists, paedophiles, political idealists, anti-socials, etc, etc.

Stopped by

Self-sacrifice (Jesus Christ)
Deterrents (violence, intimidation, hubris etc.)
Voted Out


When Cuthman came to Steyning, the South Saxons were in conflict with other tribes of Saxons especially the West Saxons

Local Kings would have to submit (sacrifice) to higher authorities. This might be by force, weight of numbers, but not necessarily the truth, justice, idealism, rationality, fair play. This is the Christian way. It may make for harmony, but not for truth or justice. This is real politik. It might have more to do with property rights, honour, pride (hubris), charisma, convenience.

Sunday, 6 February 2011

Hare and the Tortoise

Hare and the Tortoise

The story concerns a hare who ridicules a slow-moving tortoise and is challenged by him to a race. The hare soon leaves the tortoise behind and, confident of winning, decides to take a nap midway through the course. When he awakes, however, he finds that his competitor, crawling slowly but steadily, has arrived before him.

Took an untrodden path once where the swift don't win the race,
It goes to the worthy, Who can can divine the word of truth.

Comment: The Owl (INTJ) is the Judge. Hare is ISFJ and Tortoise ENTP variant.

Alternatives: The Racehorse (or Greyhound) & the Turtle

Hare: the Messenger


Normally a shy animal, the European Brown Hare changes its behaviour in spring, when hares can be seen in broad daylight chasing one another around meadows; this appears to be competition between males to attain dominance (and hence more access to breeding females). During this spring frenzy, hares can be seen "boxing"; one hare striking another with its paws. For a long time it had been thought that this was more inter-male competition, but closer observation has revealed that it is usually a female hitting a male; either to show that she is not yet quite ready to mate, or as a test of his determination.

Hares do not bear their young below ground in a burrow as do other Leporidae, but rather in a shallow depression or flattened nest of grass called a form. Young hares are adapted to the lack of physical protection offered by a burrow by being precocial, born fully furred and with eyes open. By contrast, the related rabbits and cottontail rabbits are altricial, having young that are born blind and hairless.

The hare's diet is very similar to that of the rabbit.

The Three Hares Project is researching and documenting an ancient symbol of three hares or rabbits running in a circle and joined by their ears which form a triangle at the centre of the design. The symbol is a puzzle for each creature appears to have two ears yet, between them, they share only three ears.

The Project has revealed the motif to be an extraordinary and ancient archetype, stretching across diverse religions and cultures, many centuries and many thousands of miles. It is part of the shared medieval heritage of Europe and Asia (Buddhism, Islam, Christianity and Judaism) yet still inspires creative work among contemporary artists.


Saturday, 5 February 2011

Five Types of Raptor (Birds of Prey)

Which type of INTP are you? Animal (Bird) Allocations


1) Liberal Loser: Secretary Bird, Ostrich, White Eagle

This INTP subtype tends to let an overwhelming sense of social injustice often due to their inability to control their immature feelings cloud their logic. Too much weed, or not enough, smoked at the peace rallies they attend with their overwhelmingly illogical SP soul mates typically add to the feelings of social injustice.

2) Golden Boy (or girl): Golden Eagle

This INTP subtype is as rare to see as a baby pigeon, as they tend to be physics professors, philosophy professors, professional programmers for prestigious universities or international companies, or as government analysts for the CIA and NSA. They are rarely seen, but when they are, it is typically due to personal issues that they need to whine about on internet lists, such as "my wife is a crazy bitch" or "I have no friends, I want someone to love me". They tend to be blind to the plight of their lesser INTP brethren because they have been given a golden spoon.

3) Classic Nerds: Buzzard, Black Eagle,

Similar to golden boys without the golden spoons, they tend to be intelligent, yet utterly incapable of holding a jargon free conversation. Most normal humans are incapable of communication with them outside of topics such as Star Trek, role-playing games, or the latest Matrix movie. To most, they appear asexual (and tend to BE asexual). They tend to get low level programming jobs, teach computer science at the local community college,

Steppe Eagle

or unemployed creating annoying

4) Religious Fanatic: Griffon Vulture, Griffin (powerful variant)

This type has given internal logic up for the external imposition of logic. This is usually due to severe bullying and ridicule as a child, which causes this INTP to be crushed to an empty shell – the perfect vessel for religion.

5) Cynical Realist: Vulture, Condor

This type of INTP has seen the world, and realized that they want no part of it, except where they can get knowledge, experience, and entertainment from it. They see life for what it is, a big cosmic joke, and often wonder if they should laugh or cry, but otherwise just say the hell with it, and go get laid. They tend to be sarcastic and funny, are world travelers, and can blend in to any environment, and they tend to get laid a lot. They also tend to be fairly well educated, yet stuck in worthless and meaningless jobs, both because the people around them are idiots and because they don't have the mindless compulsion to kiss ass to move up in life.

Thursday, 3 February 2011

Jung's Typological Model

Jung's typological model regards psychological type as similar to left or right handedness: individuals are either born with, or develop, certain preferred ways of thinking and acting. The MBTI sorts some of these psychological differences into four opposite pairs, or dichotomies, with a resulting 16 possible psychological types. None of these types are better or worse; however, Briggs and Myers theorized that individuals naturally prefer one overall combination of type differences. In the same way that writing with the left hand is hard work for a right-hander, so people tend to find using their opposite psychological preferences more difficult, even if they can become more proficient (and therefore behaviorally flexible) with practice and development.

Comment: I find acting as my opposite type so difficult that it amounts to psychological torture.

Perseus System (Link)

Stop being influenced by Fools

A series of experiments in the 1960s suggested that people are biased towards confirming their existing beliefs. Later work explained these results in terms of a tendency to test ideas in a one-sided way, focusing on one possibility and ignoring alternatives. In combination with other effects, this strategy can bias the conclusions that are reached. Explanations for the observed biases include wishful thinking and the limited human capacity to process information. Another proposal is that people show confirmation bias because they are pragmatically assessing the costs of being wrong, rather than investigating in a neutral, scientific way.

Gonna change my way of thinking
Make myself a different set of rules
Gonna change my way of thinking
Make myself a different set of rules
Gonna put my good foot forward
And stop being influenced by fools

Rock of Gibraltar

Anchoring or focalism is a cognitive bias that describes the common human tendency to rely too heavily, or "anchor," on one trait or piece of information when making decisions.

This is the problem of the Dryad, oir the nymph chained to the Rock of Gibraltar.

Wednesday, 2 February 2011

Dominant Process (Repeated Message)

Dominant Process Chart

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Four letter type 1st (Dominant) 2nd (Secondary) 3rd 4th


Monday, 31 January 2011

Power & Control Wheel

Why did you call it the Power and Control Wheel?
Battering is one form of domestic or intimate partner violence. It is characterized by the pattern of actions that an individual uses to intentionally control or dominate his intimate partner. That is why the words “power and control” are in the center of the wheel. A batterer systematically uses threats, intimidation, and coercion to instil fear in his partner. These behaviours are the spokes of the wheel. Physical and sexual violence holds it all together — this violence is the rim of the wheel.

Sleeping with the Enemy

This intense obsessive jealously further imprisons her so she doesn't dare look at anyone or talk to anyone. The movie Sleeping With the Enemy illustrates this behavior. Her friends feel uncomfortable visiting her so they begin to withdraw. They are afraid to make things worse for her. They only make things easier for him. Now the only voice she hears is belittling and shaming her, telling her no one would want her and blaming her for everything. She is his property now. Especially if they've gotten married..he has papers on her now. All of this along with verbal abuse sets the stage for physical abuse.

The Fog

Fear, Obligation and Guilt

You Will be Sorry

"It doesn't matter how you play the game as long as you do not lose."


"It doesn't matter if you win or lose, it's how you play the game",

Saturday, 29 January 2011

Categorical Imperative

Act in such a way that you treat humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of any other, never merely as a means to an end, but always at the same time as an end. ”
—Immanuel Kant, Groundwork of the Metaphysic of Morals

Sunday, 23 January 2011

In a Land of Wolves and Thieves

Now, he's hell-bent for destruction, he's afraid and confused
And his brain has been mismanaged with great skill
All he believe are his eyes
And his eyes, they just tell him lies.

Well, you're on your own, you always were
In a land of wolves and thieves
Don't put your hope in ungodly man
Or be a slave to what somebody else believes.

They took a clean-cut kid
And they made a killer out of him
That's what they did.

Everybody's asking why he didn't adjust
All he ever wanted was somebody to trust.

They took his head and turned it inside out
He never did know what it was all about.

He had a steady job, he joined the choir
He never did plan to walk the high wire.

Saturday, 22 January 2011

Highway Chile

Now some people say he had a girl back home
Who messed around and did him pretty wrong
They tell me it kinda hurt him bad
Kinda made him feel pretty sad
I couldn't say what went through his mind
Anyway, he left the world behind
But everybody knows the same old story,
In love and war you can't lose in glory

Thursday, 20 January 2011

Strategies to Handle Difficult Conflicts (Bully Free At Work)

Strategies to Handle Difficult Conflicts

Dear Andy,

Not all conflicts can be resolved. However, would you like to know some tips to help you resolve more conflicts that might border on bullying but are more 'difficult' as opposed to actual bullying in the workplace? Here they are:

1. Avoidance

A refusal to engage or solve.
Most prevalent.

A very obvious verbal attack occurs, and the target, due to fear, simply walks away (but they wished they could have 'done something').

While this obviously is not a good way of dealing with difficult situations or bullying, it is worth being considered as a strategy for when the conflict is 'just not worth the effort' of being addressed. It is also worth it to walk away when the power balance between individuals is not even and saying something might make things worse.

2. Accommodation

Taking the conflict and submitting.
Going along with the conflict by seeing it as more advantageous to support the other person at this time.

Listening to unhelpful criticism and believing it.

Very frequently used, especially where there is low confidence and self-esteem. This is another poor method of dealing with difficult conflicts at work, but it may do if you know that there is a solution coming soon, or you believe submitting may get you further.

3. Compete

You push hard to get your own way in the conflict, without regard for the other's needs.


You are very upset with someone, and when they try to explain their situation, you cut them off and over-explain your point in order to gain control.

This can be very useful when the conflict is mild and you are passionate about your stance, but can lead to a vicious circle as the conflict escalates.

4. Compromise

This is more win-win, and requires the goodwill of both parties. You don't give in to the conflict, but rather work out a solution somewhere between the two sides.


One person wants to order a type of food and the other person wants another type of food. Both compromise and order something totally different.

This can lead to the downfall of the actual solution leaving none of the sides happy. Sometimes no one wins.

5. Collaborate

The most useful tactic, particularly with extreme conflict and workplace bullying. The aim here is to focus on working together to arrive at a solution, where both sides have ownership of and commitment to the solution.

Example 1:

You and someone else are at completely opposed viewpoints over a project. You sit down and work out why they believe in their point of view, and explain your own. Clever and lateral thinking can provide a solution, which answers both sides, but is not a compromise.

Example 2:

Someone is being difficult at work. You talk to this person using the strategies below and collaborate on modifying their behavior.

Use this strategy when the goal is to meet as many of the current needs as is possible. This can be the most difficult strategy if confidence is low, as it involves naming the issue to the conflict-creator, which can cause anxiety and fear.

To collaborate successfully on an issue such as continuing conflict you need to follow a few basic guidelines:

You must recognize that (maybe) part of the problem is your own fault: you allowed it to happen and did not try to address it to begin with. You can state this aloud and actively take part of the responsibility, as this will put the onus onto the other person to take the other part of the responsibility.
Remember that we frequently don't like in others what we don't want to see in ourselves, but occasionally find anyway. Be very sure that you have not committed the same conflict/offense.
Manage yourself during the resolution attempt - learn calming strategies if you are hot-tempered, or confidence boosters if you are shy. Try not to be emotional, as emotion will only make things escalate, and put a further wedge between parties. It is your responsibility to manage yourself; anything less, we are putting our unnecessary 'stuff' on the other.
Maintain eye contact and use your body language to convey your belief in what you are saying. Don't fiddle with something nervously, don't cross your arms protectively, and don't put yourself on a lower level than the other person (such as sitting on a lower chair). Our body language shows our heart. Is your heart showing the desire to collaborate?
Don't believe that the best defense is a good offense - that is part of the competing strategy. Comebacks and not acknowledging another's point of view are also part of competing: listen to the other side as they have just as much of a right to share as you do. Seek first to understand.
Work the issue, not the person: this means addressing the behavior rather than the entire existence of that person. There is a different level of ownership for behaviors, and people will take less offence if you address their behavior than if you criticize them personally. Never lay blame, as this will only fan the fires. Check your heart: can you separate the person from the performance?
If you are not getting anywhere, ask for further information from the other person about the reasons for their behavior, but don't ask the questions with 'why' at the beginning - if you do, this will actively put the other person under the spotlight and they will get defensive.
PS: If you sincerely feel you cannot resolve a conflict due to being very emotionally upset, then own this fact and ask for forgiveness of not being able to resolve the conflict at the moment. These are your emotions and they must be owned by you. Again, separate the person from the situation. This allows us to have hope in moving through difficult situations.

Above all, remember that people who enjoy creating conflict are ultimately power-seekers who enjoy controlling others. Frequently this is because either they have suffered in a similar way before, or feel that they have very little control over their own lives and they do anything they can to feel in control. A little compassion will take you a long way both in resolving the situation and in putting it behind you when it is resolved. After all, what is the alternative? It's time for extending the olive branch...but be careful it doesn't get burned off!

Valerie Cade, CSP is a Workplace Bullying Expert, Speaker and Author of "Bully Free at Work: What You Can Do To Stop Workplace Bullying Now!" which has been distributed in over 100 countries worldwide. For presentations and consulting on workplace bullying prevention and respectful workplace implementation, go to

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Friday, 14 January 2011


Xeer is accepted by the people. You cannot deny that. It is a strange culture, the Somali culture. But there is a beauty to it. All agreements are reached and all disputes are resolved through consensus.

Xeer, pronounced [ħeːr], is the polycentric legal system of Somalia. Under this system, elders serve as judges and help mediate cases using precedents. It is a good example of how customary law works within a stateless society and is a fair approximation of what is thought of as natural law.

This an extreme right wing tribal patriarchial de-centralised society.

Thursday, 13 January 2011

To be nobody but yourself .... e.e. cummings

"To be nobody but yourself - in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you like everybody else

- means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight - and never stop fighting." - e.e. cummings

but .....

The Guards are guarding against people contravening the Universal Morality and the laws of the land.

The Bully is going to bash you unless you are just like him. The Monster is going to bash you anyway. He is nobody but himself and he likes ...bashing people.

The Herd of Elephants are after a little bit more territory and the Mouse does not want to be trampled or squirted at.


We have the ability to determine what we value and act upon it.

We can alter our perspective of the present and vision our future.

We have the power to choose.

We can base our priorities on something beyond instinct.

We can use our resourcefulness to remain 'civilized' regardless of how difficult the circumstances.

What separates our species from the 'wild kingdom' is more than our opposable thumb.

© 2011 Gail Pursell Elliott

Edward Estlin Cummings

Edward Estlin Cummings (October 14, 1894 – September 3, 1962), popularly known as E. E. Cummings, with the abbreviated form of his name often written by others in lowercase letters as e.e. cummings (in the style of some of his poems), was an American poet, painter, essayist, author, and playwright. His body of work encompasses approximately 2,900 poems, two autobiographical novels, four plays and several essays, as well as numerous drawings and paintings. He is remembered as a preeminent voice of 20th century poetry, as well as one of the most popular.

Tuesday, 11 January 2011

Golden Age

The term Golden Age (Χρυσόν Γένος) comes from Greek mythology and legend and refers to the first in a sequence of four or five (or more) Ages of Man, in which the Golden Age is first, followed in sequence, by the Silver, Bronze, and Iron Ages, and then the present, a period of decline. By extension "Golden Age" denotes a period of primordial peace, harmony, stability, and prosperity.

The Titans (Titanic struggle)

In Greek mythology, the Titans (Greek: Τιτάν - Ti-tan; plural: Τιτᾶνες - Ti-tânes) were a race of powerful deities, descendants of Gaia and Uranus, that ruled during the legendary Golden Age.

In the first generation of twelve Titans, the males were Oceanus, Hyperion, Coeus, Cronus, Crius and Iapetus and the females were Mnemosyne, Tethys, Theia, Phoebe, Rhea and Themis. The second generation of Titans consisted of Hyperion's children Eos, Helios, and Selene; Coeus's daughters Leto and Asteria; Iapetus's sons Atlas, Prometheus, Epimetheus, and Menoetius; and Crius's sons Astraeus, Pallas, and Perses.

The role of the Titans as Elder Gods was overthrown by a race of younger gods, the Olympians, in the Titanomachy ("War of the Titans") which effected a mythological paradigm shift that the Greeks may have borrowed from the Ancient Near East

The Twelve Titans:
Oceanus and Tethys,
Hyperion and Theia,
Coeus and Phoebe,
Cronus and Rhea,
Mnemosyne, Themis,
Crius, Iapetus
Children of Oceanus:
Oceanids, Potamoi
Children of Hyperion:
Eos, Helios, Selene
Daughters of Coeus:
Leto and Asteria
Sons of Iapetus:
Atlas, Prometheus,
Epimetheus, Menoetius
Sons of Crius:
Astraeus, Pallas,
Perses (not Perseus)


Eris (Greek Ἔρις, "Strife") is the Greek goddess of strife and discord, her name being translated into Latin as Discordia. Her Greek opposite is Harmonia, whose Latin counterpart is Concordia. Homer equated her with the war-goddess Enyo, whose Roman counterpart is Bellona. The dwarf planet Eris is named after the goddess.

Humpty Dumpty (Revisited)

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall,
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall.
All the king's horses and all the king's men
Couldn't put Humpty together again.[1]

The rhyme does not explicitly state that the subject is an egg because it probably was originally posed as a riddle.[1] The earliest known version is in a manuscript addition to a copy of Mother Goose's Melody published in 1803, which has the modern version with a different last line: "Could not set Humpty Dumpty up again".[1] It was first published in 1810 in a version of Gammer Gurton's Garland as:

Humpty Dumpty sate [sic] on a wall,
Humpti Dumpti [sic] had a great fall;
Threescore men and threescore more,
Cannot place Humpty dumpty as he was before

The alternative (=original) version has an different answer to the riddle.

Saturday, 8 January 2011

Serenity Prayer

God, grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.

Friday, 7 January 2011

Pigs v Magpies

Cops and Robbers


INXP may very well be a Magpie, Cuckoo, Crow, Raven, Jay, Chough, and are thought to be average sort of clever animals.
They are usually thought of as cheats and thieves rather than Police Officers.

Cops (Pigs ISXP) v Robbers (Magpies INXP).

Lawyers (Eagles INTP)


The Chimera or Chimaera (Greek: Χίμαιρα, Khimaira, from χίμαρος, khimaros, "she-goat") was, according to Greek mythology, a monstrous fire-breathing female creature of Lycia in Asia Minor, composed of the parts of multiple animals: upon the body of a lioness with a tail that ended in a snake's head, the head of a goat arose on her back at the center of her spine. The Chimera was one of the offspring of Typhon and Echidna and a sibling of such monsters as Cerberus and the Lernaean Hydra. The term chimera has also come to mean, more generally, an impossible or foolish fantasy, hard to believe.

The important (and confusing) part of the Chimaera is the goat looking backwards.

Thursday, 6 January 2011

Human Nature

Ethology (from Greek: ἦθος, ethos, "character"; and -λογία, -logia, "the study of") is the scientific study of animal behavior, and a sub-topic of zoology.

Instincts are the inherent inclination of a living organism toward a particular behavior. The fixed action patterns are unlearned and inherited. The stimuli can be variable due to imprinting in a sensitive period or also genetically fixed. Examples of instinctual fixed action patterns can be observed in the behavior of animals, which perform various activities (sometimes complex) that are not based upon prior experience, such as reproduction, and feeding among insects. Sea turtles, hatched on a beach, automatically move toward the ocean, and honeybees communicate by dance the direction of a food source, all without formal instruction.

Human nature is the concept that there is a set of inherent distinguishing characteristics, including ways of thinking, feeling and acting, that all humans tend to have.

The questions of what ultimately causes these distinguishing characteristics of humanity and how this causation works, and how fixed human nature is, are amongst the oldest and most important questions in western philosophy. These questions have particularly important implications in ethics, politics and theology because human nature is seen as providing standards or norms that humans can use when judging how best to live either as individuals, or members of a community. The complex implications of such discussion are also often themes which are dealt with in art.

Andy Horton (me) surmises that human beings have an inherent cognitive way of thinking that varies according to personality. Behaviour does not follow from thinking because of social constraints. Also, humans have a ability to change their cognition if they want to.

Wednesday, 5 January 2011

Goblin Market

Goblin Market is about two close sisters, Laura and Lizzie, as well as the goblin men to whom the title refers, and another girl named Jeanie.

Although the sisters seem to be quite young, they live by themselves in a house, and are accustomed to draw water every evening from a stream. As the poem begins, twilight is falling, and as usual the sisters hear the calls from the goblin merchants, who sell fruits in fantastic abundance, variety and savour. On this evening, Laura lingers at the stream after her sister has left for home. Wanting fruit but having no money, the impulsive Laura offers a lock of her hair and "a tear more rare than pearl."

Laura gorges on the delicious fruit in a sort of bacchic frenzy, then comes to her senses and, after picking up one of the seeds, returns home. Lizzie, waiting at home, and "full of wise upbraidings," reminds Laura about the cautionary tale of Jeanie, another girl who, having likewise partaken of the goblin men's fruits, died just at the beginning of winter, after a long decline.

Night has by then fallen, and the sisters go to sleep in their shared bed.

The next day, as Laura and Lizzie go about their work in the house, Laura dreamily longs for the coming evening's meeting with the goblin men. But at the stream that evening, as she strains to hear the usual goblin chants and cries, Laura discovers to her horror that, although Lizzie still hears the goblins' voices, she no longer can.

Extract from a longer explanation: