Love-triangle; what to do?!
Let's say you had a friend, who had a female friend, who had a boyfriend. The female friend and her boyfriend have been together for a little over two years now, but your friend is really close with the female friend. Actually, it seems like your friend has a much deeper connection with your female friend--they confide in each other, and have much more personal trust in each other. They're on the same wavelength, and can always argue with one another (constructively). They unintentionally push each other to grow mentally and emotionally. They understand each other on a level that doesn't require verbal communication, and both can respond well to each other's needs. Simply put--they don't feel the slightest bit of loneliness when they're around each other.
Your friend knows he can be a better companion for his female friend. What should he do?..
A. Brush off his intuitions and feelings; forget the obvious and move on to other opportunities; give up
B. Be a home-wrecker and fight for her monogamous companionship for a potentially lifelong commitment
C. Stay close and let be what may be; wait
I won't wait for anything but you.
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Is the friend you? And where is the triangle?
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Let's say that you're in the friend zone already. Let's also say that what you wrote doesn't indicate the slightest bit of sexual / romantic attraction on her part.
Is it "had a boyfriend" or "has a boyfriend." Your verb conjugation is confusing. From what follows it seems that "has a boyfriend" is what you meant.
If it's "had," and there's a lot more you're not telling us, then maybe. I've had a "friends to lovers" opportunity before, but usually there's a reason you're in the friend zone to begin with. My status with her changed only after I changed.
If it's "has," then wait it out while growing as a person and making a life. Personally I'd find any excuse to self-improve and if the prospect of getting this girl to feel attraction to you helps you become a better person then I'd use it.
The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but how it thinks.
-Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
I have never made but one prayer to God, a very short one: "O Lord make my enemies ridiculous." And God granted it.
-Voltaire
I'm as bad as the worst, but, thank god, I'm as good as the best
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Originally Posted by Caelum
Let's say you had a friend, who had a female friend, who had a boyfriend. The female friend and her boyfriend have been together for a little over two years now, but your friend is really close with the female friend. Actually, it seems like your friend has a much deeper connection with your female friend--they confide in each other, and have much more personal trust in each other. They're on the same wavelength, and can always argue with one another (constructively). They unintentionally push each other to grow mentally and emotionally. They understand each other on a level that doesn't require verbal communication, and both can respond well to each other's needs. Simply put--they don't feel the slightest bit of loneliness when they're around each other.
Your friend knows he can be a better companion for his female friend. What should he do?..
A. Brush off his intuitions and feelings; forget the obvious and move on to other opportunities; give up
B. Be a home-wrecker and fight for her monogamous companionship for a potentially lifelong commitment
C. Stay close and let be what may be; wait
In the western world you should iNtuitively know that polyandry is politically unacceptable, so it is best to keep quiet. You can a wait forever. This issue mucks up the Perseus System matches. The Guards SJ will not like it cause they have a monogamous monotheist rule book. The NTJs will not like the third party either because they know the political climate. Polyandry is unacceptable in almost all political and religious systems. Polygyny tends to be illegal or unacceptable but not in all societies. These practices are called Taboo. Famous people and politicians are not allowed to break taboos.
Saturday 28 August 2010
Friday 27 August 2010
Our Rights
Our Rights
1. I have the right to express my feelings
2. I have the right to express my opinions and beliefs.
3. I have the right to say ‘yes’ and ‘no’ for myself
4. I have the right to change my mind
5. I have the right to say ‘I don’t understand’.
6. I have the right to simply to be myself without having to act for other people’s benefit
7. I have the right to decline responsibility for other people’s problems
8. I have the right to make reasonable requests of others
9. I have the right to set my own priorities
10. I have the right to be listened to, and taken seriously
11. I have the right to make mistakes and feel comfortable about admitting to them
12. I have the right to be illogical in making decisions
13. I have the right to say, ‘I don’t care’
14. I have the right to be miserable or cheerful
Any other rights that you can think of ???
1. I have the right to express my feelings
2. I have the right to express my opinions and beliefs.
3. I have the right to say ‘yes’ and ‘no’ for myself
4. I have the right to change my mind
5. I have the right to say ‘I don’t understand’.
6. I have the right to simply to be myself without having to act for other people’s benefit
7. I have the right to decline responsibility for other people’s problems
8. I have the right to make reasonable requests of others
9. I have the right to set my own priorities
10. I have the right to be listened to, and taken seriously
11. I have the right to make mistakes and feel comfortable about admitting to them
12. I have the right to be illogical in making decisions
13. I have the right to say, ‘I don’t care’
14. I have the right to be miserable or cheerful
Any other rights that you can think of ???
Thursday 26 August 2010
Homosexual Love
The Perseus System does not really accept homosexual love (not just sex) in its remit (restricted world view) but I am now expanding the types allocation to allocate their attitudes.
ENFJ: Close family ties mean that it is probably accepted because of a lack of opportunity for the normal mating behaviour. 5% of the total population.
ENFP: OK for novelty and surprises and when they are in danger, but they will revert to normal except when blackmailed. 5% of the total population.
ENTJ: Rejects the possibility as feasible. Not impossible though given exceptional circumstances. 5% of the total population.
ENTP: Non-conformist and innovative, but this does not mean that homosexuality is acceptable. It isn't. 5% of the total population.
ESFJ: They like personal contact, but homosexual contacts are eschewed, except perhaps a brief encounter, less than a one night stand. 13% of the total population.
ESFP: Very sociable and may not take notice of gender differences, but I still think that it is unlikely. 13% of the total population.
ESTJ: Not love but a power bullying relationship is possible. With this lot, I sometimes whether they are capable of love at all, but always with the opposite sex. 13% of the total population
ESTP: I expect this lot could, but they love themselves most of all. 13% of the total population.
INFJ: Complex personality and I do not really understand this lot. For the sake of harmony they may engage in a liason, but a homosexual love is impossible. 1% of the total population.
INFP: They could easily sacrifice themselves to homosexual love in conventional theory, but I think it is impossible for these type. 1% of the total population.
INTJ: Could be crackpooted enough to try on drugs, but otherwise nigh impossible. 1% of the total population.
INTP: Could be deluded into attempting a wrong liaison of any kind because of lack of personal contact, but I would say it was impossible. 1% of the total population.
ISFJ: Too conservative to even try, but they might like it for a bit if they get trapped. 6% of the total population.
ISFP: Not big on commitment, but very much on the cards for these types. They will revert to normal if the opportunity arises. 5% of the total population.
ISTJ: These lot could be savage homosexual lovers. But not if it was illegal. 6% of the total population.
ISTP: My guess is that this lot could adapt to what whatever they want and could be homosexual as a second choice. 5% of the total population.
First draft. Opinions appreciated.
ENFJ: Close family ties mean that it is probably accepted because of a lack of opportunity for the normal mating behaviour. 5% of the total population.
ENFP: OK for novelty and surprises and when they are in danger, but they will revert to normal except when blackmailed. 5% of the total population.
ENTJ: Rejects the possibility as feasible. Not impossible though given exceptional circumstances. 5% of the total population.
ENTP: Non-conformist and innovative, but this does not mean that homosexuality is acceptable. It isn't. 5% of the total population.
ESFJ: They like personal contact, but homosexual contacts are eschewed, except perhaps a brief encounter, less than a one night stand. 13% of the total population.
ESFP: Very sociable and may not take notice of gender differences, but I still think that it is unlikely. 13% of the total population.
ESTJ: Not love but a power bullying relationship is possible. With this lot, I sometimes whether they are capable of love at all, but always with the opposite sex. 13% of the total population
ESTP: I expect this lot could, but they love themselves most of all. 13% of the total population.
INFJ: Complex personality and I do not really understand this lot. For the sake of harmony they may engage in a liason, but a homosexual love is impossible. 1% of the total population.
INFP: They could easily sacrifice themselves to homosexual love in conventional theory, but I think it is impossible for these type. 1% of the total population.
INTJ: Could be crackpooted enough to try on drugs, but otherwise nigh impossible. 1% of the total population.
INTP: Could be deluded into attempting a wrong liaison of any kind because of lack of personal contact, but I would say it was impossible. 1% of the total population.
ISFJ: Too conservative to even try, but they might like it for a bit if they get trapped. 6% of the total population.
ISFP: Not big on commitment, but very much on the cards for these types. They will revert to normal if the opportunity arises. 5% of the total population.
ISTJ: These lot could be savage homosexual lovers. But not if it was illegal. 6% of the total population.
ISTP: My guess is that this lot could adapt to what whatever they want and could be homosexual as a second choice. 5% of the total population.
First draft. Opinions appreciated.
Monday 23 August 2010
Hubris Revisited (Black Riders)
Individuals who come to study abroad with no intention of actually working hard in their studies. Live off the wealth of their parents which they squander daily on alcohol and shopping. Smoking is a necessity, especially in front of the school library. Will only befriend you with an ulterior motive. Never one to be trusted or taken seriously. Don't have much respect for anyone but themselves and believe that money can solve everything. Males who already completed military service are the worst. Their pride eats away their brain and believes that violence and force is the only solution to all problems. Known to cheat excessively in groups on exams even under the watchful eye of university professors. Known to beat women and will demand respect from people younger than they are. Will often hide behind their religion to look innocent. "Christianity" is often a mask to hide their thoughts and is also a way to get women.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=korean%20military
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(Hazel) The Water Diviner
The Water Diviner
BY DANNIE ABSE
I should have built, plain brick on brick,
a water tower. The sun flies on
arid wastes, barren hells too warm
and me with a hazel stick!
http://www.poetryfoundation.org/archive/poem.html?id=178133
BY DANNIE ABSE
I should have built, plain brick on brick,
a water tower. The sun flies on
arid wastes, barren hells too warm
and me with a hazel stick!
http://www.poetryfoundation.org/archive/poem.html?id=178133
Saturday 21 August 2010
Scrambled Eggs
Milk drinking and eggs can make me uncomfortable and could be an aphrodisiac in the right circumstances. In the storybook, Lilith drinks Guinness.
Another storyline: they have closed the chocolate factory and are manufacturing cocaine.
Another storyline: they have closed the chocolate factory and are manufacturing cocaine.
Monday 16 August 2010
Stereotype
A stereotype is a commonly held public belief about specific social groups or types of individuals. The concepts of "stereotype" and "prejudice" are often confused with many other different meanings. Stereotypes are standardized and simplified conceptions of groups based on some prior assumptions.
Sociologists believe that mental categorizing (or labelling) is necessary and inescapable. One perspective on how to understand stereotyping process is through the categories or ingroups and outgroups. Ingroups are viewed as normal and superior, and are generally the group that one associates with or aspires to join. An outgroup is simply all the other groups. They are seen as lesser or inferior than the in groups.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stereotype
stereotype | ster()tLp, str()- | n. & a. L18. [Fr. stereotype adj., f. as STEREO- + TYPE n.] A n. 1 Hist. A method of replicating a relief printing surface (as a page of type or a wood-engraving) by taking a cast using a mould orig. of papier-mache or plaster, later of rubber, plastic, etc. L18. 2 A stereotype plate. E19. 3 a A thing continued or constantly repeated without change, esp. a phrase, formula, etc.; stereotyped diction or usage. E19. b A preconceived, standardized, and oversimplified impression of the characteristics which typify a person, situation, etc., often shared by all members of a society or certain social groups; an attitude based on such a preconception. Also, a person or thing appearing to conform closely to such a standardized impression. E20. c Zool. A stereotyped action or series of actions performed by an animal. M20.
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prototype | prttLp | n. Also (earlier) in Gk form -typon. L16. [Fr., or late L prototypus f. Gk prototupos, (neut. -on): see PROTO-, -TYPE.] 1 The first or primary type of something; the original of which a copy, imitation, representation, derivative, or improved form exists or is made; a pattern, a model, an archetype. L16. b spec. That of which a model is a copy on a reduced scale. E20. 2 Electronics. A basic filter network with specified cut-off frequencies, from which other networks may be derived to obtain sharper cut-offs, constancy of characteristic impedance with frequency, etc. Freq. attrib. E20. 3 A trial model or preliminary version of a vehicle, machine, etc. M20.
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Developed by The Learning Company, Inc. Copyright (c) 1997 TLC Properties Inc.
Sociologists believe that mental categorizing (or labelling) is necessary and inescapable. One perspective on how to understand stereotyping process is through the categories or ingroups and outgroups. Ingroups are viewed as normal and superior, and are generally the group that one associates with or aspires to join. An outgroup is simply all the other groups. They are seen as lesser or inferior than the in groups.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stereotype
stereotype | ster()tLp, str()- | n. & a. L18. [Fr. stereotype adj., f. as STEREO- + TYPE n.] A n. 1 Hist. A method of replicating a relief printing surface (as a page of type or a wood-engraving) by taking a cast using a mould orig. of papier-mache or plaster, later of rubber, plastic, etc. L18. 2 A stereotype plate. E19. 3 a A thing continued or constantly repeated without change, esp. a phrase, formula, etc.; stereotyped diction or usage. E19. b A preconceived, standardized, and oversimplified impression of the characteristics which typify a person, situation, etc., often shared by all members of a society or certain social groups; an attitude based on such a preconception. Also, a person or thing appearing to conform closely to such a standardized impression. E20. c Zool. A stereotyped action or series of actions performed by an animal. M20.
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cf.
prototype | prttLp | n. Also (earlier) in Gk form -typon. L16. [Fr., or late L prototypus f. Gk prototupos, (neut. -on): see PROTO-, -TYPE.] 1 The first or primary type of something; the original of which a copy, imitation, representation, derivative, or improved form exists or is made; a pattern, a model, an archetype. L16. b spec. That of which a model is a copy on a reduced scale. E20. 2 Electronics. A basic filter network with specified cut-off frequencies, from which other networks may be derived to obtain sharper cut-offs, constancy of characteristic impedance with frequency, etc. Freq. attrib. E20. 3 A trial model or preliminary version of a vehicle, machine, etc. M20.
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Excerpted from The Oxford Interactive Encyclopedia
Developed by The Learning Company, Inc. Copyright (c) 1997 TLC Properties Inc.
Friday 6 August 2010
Page 37
A (Police) Constable, if he has served for a few years, knows more about his town than anyone else and on all levels. He knows that Mrs Geldman is sleeping with the schoolteacher and how often.
Sweet Thursday by John Steinbeck.
Sweet Thursday by John Steinbeck.
Wednesday 4 August 2010
High Water (Baptism or drowning in the Sea of Souls)
Well, George Henry Lewes told the Englishman, the Italian and the Jew
“You can’t open your mind, boys
To every conceivable point of view”
They got Charles Darwin trapped out there on Highway Five
Judge says to the High Sheriff,
“I want him dead or alive
Either one, I don’t care”
High water everywhere
http://www.metrolyrics.com/highwater-for-charlie-patton-lyrics-bob-dylan.html
I would go down to Rosedale
but, they tell me there's water there
Now, the water now, mama,
done took Charley's town
Well, they tell me the water,
done took Charley's town
For Charlie Patton
http://www.lyricstime.com/charley-patton-high-water-everywhere-part-1-lyrics.html
“You can’t open your mind, boys
To every conceivable point of view”
They got Charles Darwin trapped out there on Highway Five
Judge says to the High Sheriff,
“I want him dead or alive
Either one, I don’t care”
High water everywhere
http://www.metrolyrics.com/highwater-for-charlie-patton-lyrics-bob-dylan.html
I would go down to Rosedale
but, they tell me there's water there
Now, the water now, mama,
done took Charley's town
Well, they tell me the water,
done took Charley's town
For Charlie Patton
http://www.lyricstime.com/charley-patton-high-water-everywhere-part-1-lyrics.html
Sunday 1 August 2010
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