Monday 13 October 2008

Ruminations about Malignant Bullies

Bully Online Post, tooetpulik@... wrote:>> <<'d just love to know if anyone has successfully overcome bullyingand> stayed in the same job?>>>> I am interested in the same data but from being a member of this group for> close to a year or longer I would have to say NO. There are those who have> survived and put up with it for many years but I don't remember a post from anyone> who has had their bully(s) stop their behavior and turn normal.

Hello,

I have been observing this and I have not known one case (out of about a dozen) where the malignant has turned normal. They simply do not want to do so. It should be possible. It does not seem very likely though. He would most likely have to be supported to change his behaviour. He would then recover, but the target would still get no redress for his suffering. However, there have been cases where the supporters of the malignant have changed sides and the malignant is left isolated and without support. Change appears to have occurred, but it may be the malignant source was wrongly identified?

However, I do believe there may be cases where the person has learned a malignant criminal agenda. Or even when they have been tricked into believing it. They may subsequently discover the nature of their delusion. There are out and out criminals (which tend to make you ill) and people who have been criminalised by contact.

And then there are the dispossessed and poverty stricken, which are not malignants, but may behave in unlawful and a harmful self-seeking manner through necessity or greed. So it is not all black and white. There are shades of grey.

An agenda that is contrary to your beliefs may be classed as you as out and out malignant. In the Thieves Kitchen, the Saint or Angel is the malignant one.

In the world of ideals, politics, and committee meetings, where introspectives push their agenda, a compromise is painfully worked out. The unhealthy one (who disagrees with the consensus) is out in the cold. Ask Socrates.

Truth has got nothing to do with it. The game is power. Power is to gain control of resources.

The scientist may have to be an outsider and be detached. He presents evidence and lets the clowns (=politicians) make decisions. He will not be in the Guards.

1 comment:

Perseus said...

The Horsemen (Providor) may be a Survivor. He adopt sadistic bullying for his cause to protect his family and to gain Respect, invest in his Pride.