I gave up on love years ago, anything that makes you feel free is good[/quote]
however, don't be afraid to be emotionally available to people, to enjoy them etc, have fun and also support them if they need it
I love being a good guy and being understanding, but at the same time I do not fall into the trap of "love", which is the false belief that "it" lasts forever, there is no "love" that could last, love is intangible, an illusion, often propagated by hollywood
not being enthralled is great, plus it is attractive, you can fall in love with a lot of people simultaneously, it's not a finite resource
so enjoy life, be free, don't deny your feelings, but at the same time don't inflate them artificially with that "love" talk
I think you've taken a major step in the right direction
you can also read my guide to getting girls here: http://personalitycafe.com/sex-relationships/5636-guide-getting-girls-minus-lying-expenditures.html
This is just T in overload from my position:
The other of the flipped rationals, the TNPI has found a favored heuristic with which to destroy any system. This type prefers to destroy in service of a stronger whole, which it ironically knows will never be perfect or complete.
Love Exists. One way love and you are vulnerable. Love means different things to different people. Ironically, it is the ISTP and INTPs that says things like this, because they are the ones that get hurt by Love, because of their archery. Just don't fire in the direction of Cats ISFP.
There is the NF position of ideal love, but this is different. And SF Cats that go with the flow.
Maybe, I am a Roman who doesn't care for the Thracian Horsemen ESFJ.
If you wanna to be happy for a week take a wife, if you want to be happy all your life, plant a garden. (Anon.)