Relationship Notes

Relationship Notes


INTP Weaknesses
http://www.personalitypage.com/INTP_rel.html
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My notes in brackets

Not naturally in tune with others' feelings; slow to respond to emotional needs
(This is a big problem, which causes missing mates.)

Not naturally good at expressing their own feelings and emotions
(This OK in privacy and in suitable environments, but hopeless if there is competition or when the INTP feels unsafe)

Tend to be suspicious and distrusting of others
(with good reason)

Not usually good at practical matters, such as money management, unless their work involves these concerns
(Bloody nuisance.)

They have difficulty leaving bad relationships
(Get into a rut)

Tend to "blow off" conflict situations by ignoring them, or else they "blow up" in heated anger
(Can feign unconcern successfully, but is this good policy?)

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Most INFPs will exhibit the following weaknesses with regards to relationship issues:

May tend to be shy and reserved
(A big problem)

Don't like to have their "space" invaded
(yep)
Extreme dislike of conflict
(nope)
Extreme dislike of criticism
(when unfair)
Strong need to receive praise and positive affirmation
(dislike being taken for granted)
May react very emotionally to stressful situations
(can do when seriously bad, but more of an INTP trait)

Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship
Have difficulty scolding or punishing others
(not as recently, but let abuse go on for too long)
Tend to be reserved about expressing their feelings
(with good reason to avoid getting into trouble)
Perfectionist tendencies may cause them to not give themselves enough credit
(?)
Tendency to blame themselves for problems, and hold everything on their own shoulders
(trying not to do this, vented feelings at others)