MY TYPE

MY TYPE:

NP: Psychedelic cf. SJ: Guardian
NT: Rational cf. SF: Irrational
NF: Idealist cf. ST: Absurdist
SP Artisan cf. NJ: Dictator

Voting Thread:

http://www.intpforum.com/showthread.php?t=1651

New Age Movement

New Age (New Age Movement and New Age Spirituality) is a decentralized Western social and spiritual movement that seeks Universal Truth and the attainment of the highest individual human potential. It combines aspects of cosmology, astrology, esotericism, complementary and alternative medicine, various religious practices, collectivism, nature, and environmentalism. New Age Spirituality is characterized by an individual approach to spirituality, while rejecting religious doctrine and dogma.
The New Age Movement first appeared as an entity in the 1960s and 1970s, although elements can be traced back to the late 19th and early 20th centuries.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_Age

Murder of Agamemnon

After a stormy voyage, Agamemnon and Cassandra landed in Argolis or were blown off course and landed in Aegisthus' country. Clytemnestra, Agamemnon's wife, had taken a lover, Aegisthus, and they invited Agamemnon to a banquet at which he was treacherously slain. According to the account given by Pindar and the tragedians, Agamemnon was slain by his wife alone in a bath, a blanket of cloth or a net having first been thrown over him to prevent resistance. Clytemnestra also killed Cassandra. Her wrath at the sacrifice of Iphigenia, her jealousy of Cassandra, and the possibility of going to war for Helen's affection are said to have been the motives for her crime.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agamemnon

Sitting Bull

Sitting Bull was born with the name Hoka-Psice (Jumping Badger), which was understood by members of his tribe as only a temporary name.[1] His father was named Tȟatȟaŋka Iyotȟaŋka (Sitting Bull, after whom he would later be named), his mother was named Her-Holy-Door, and he had a sister, six years older than he, named Good Feather. As a youth, Sitting Bull excelled at foot races and was an expert horseback rider and was very accurate with a bow and arrow.[2]
At about the age of 14, Sitting Bull participated in a war party that met Crow warriors.[3] He overtook one of the warriors during their retreat, and knocked the Crow off his horse. For this, Sitting Bull earned a white eagle feather, symbol of a first coup, and also received the name of his father. His father changed his name to Jumping Bull, and henceforth Sitting Bull would be known as Tatanka-Iyotanka, or Sitting Bull.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sitting_Bull

An example of the animism and symbolism in the Sioux

Native American Church (Peyote Road)

Native American Church, a religious denomination which practices Peyotism or the Peyote religion, originated in the U.S. state of Oklahoma, and is the most widespread indigenous religion among Native Americans. Peyotism involves the use of the entheogen Peyote, a spineless cactus.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Native_American_Church

Quanah Parker is credited as the founder of the Native American Church Movement, which started in the 1890s, and was formally incorporated in 1918. Parker adopted the peyote religion after reportedly seeing a vision of Jesus Christ while suffering from a near fatal wound following a battle with Federal Troops. Peyote is reported to contain hordenine and tyramine, phenylethylamine alkaloids which act as potent natural antibiotics when taken in a combined form. Parker was given peyote by Carrizo Coahuilatecan Indians in south Texas who healed him and showed him the proper way to run peyote ceremonies. Therefore, the genesis of modern NAC ceremonies have deep roots in Mexican Indian culture and ritual, due to the natural locality of Peyote and the dissemination by Parker to the Comanche and other plains tribes located in Indian Territory.[citation needed]. This key aspect of medicine history is often overlooked, and tension arises between NAC members who discriminate against Mexicans, ignorant to the knowledge that the way formed in this church was started by Mexican Indian relatives[citation needed]. Parker's words and teachings comprise the core of the Native American Church Doctrine and the "Peyote Road."

Animism

Animism
Animism (from Latin anima (soul, life)[1][2]) is a philosophical, religious or spiritual idea that souls or spirits exist in humans, animals, plants or other entities.[3] Animism may also attribute souls to natural phenomena, geographic features, and metaphors in mythology. Religions which emphasize animism in this sense include Shinto, Hinduism and pagan faiths such as folk religions, Neopaganism, among countless others. Throughout European history, philosophers such as Plato, Aristotle, Thomas Acquinas, among others, contemplated the possibility that souls exist in animals, plants and people.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Animism

Diogenes (Stand out of my Sunlight)

Diogenes of Sinope
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Diogenes by John William Waterhouse, depicting his lamp, tub, and diet of onions.
Full name Diogenes (Διογένης ὁ Σινωπεύς)
Birth ca. 412 BC, Sinope
Death 323 BC,
Corinth School/tradition Greek philosophy, Cynicism
Main interests Asceticism, Cynicism
Notable ideas Became the archetypal Cynic philosopher

Influenced by Antisthenes Influenced Crates of Thebes, other Cynics, the Stoics Diogenes (Greek: Διογένης ὁ Σινωπεύς Diogenes ho Sinopeus) "the Cynic", Greek philosopher, was born in Sinope (modern day Sinop, Turkey) about 412 BC (according to other sources 404 BC),[1] and died in 323 BC,[2] at Corinth. Details of his life come in the form of anecdotes (chreia), especially from Diogenes Laërtius, in his book Lives and Opinions of Eminent Philosophers.

Diogenes of Sinope was exiled from his native city and moved to Athens, where he is said to have become a disciple of Antisthenes, the former pupil of Socrates. Diogenes, a beggar who made his home in the streets of Athens, made a virtue of extreme poverty. He is said to have lived in a large tub, rather than a house, and to have walked through the streets carrying a lamp in the daytime, claiming to be looking for an honest man. He eventually settled in Corinth where he continued to pursue the Cynic ideal of self-sufficiency: a life which was natural and not dependent upon the luxuries of civilization. Believing that virtue was better revealed in action and not theory, his life was a relentless campaign to debunk the social values and institutions of what he saw as a corrupt society.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diogenes_of_Sinope

The story goes that while Diogenes was relaxing in the sunlight one morning, Alexander, thrilled to meet the famous philosopher, asked if there was any favour he might do for him. Diogenes replied, "Yes: Stand out of my sunlight."

Druids

A druid was a member of the priestly and learned class in the ancient Celtic societies of Western Europe, Britain and Ireland. They were suppressed by the Roman government and disappeared from the written record by the second century CE. Druids combined the duties of priest, judge, scholar, and teacher.[1] Little contemporary evidence for them exists, and thus little can be said of them with assurance, but they continued to feature prominently in later Irish myth and literature.[2]
The earliest record of the name druidae (Δρυΐδαι) is reported from a lost work of the Greek doxographer Sotion of Alexandria (early second century BCE), who was cited by Diogenes Laertius in the third century CE.[3]
The Celtic communities that Druids served were polytheistic. They also show signs of animism, in their reverence for various aspects of the natural world, such as the land, sea and sky,[4] and their veneration of other aspects of nature, such as sacred trees and groves (the oak and hazel were particularly revered), tops of hills, streams, lakes and plants such as the mistletoe.[5] Fire was regarded as a symbol of several divinities and was associated with cleansing. Purported ritual killing and human sacrifice were aspects of druidic culture that shocked classical writers.[6]
Modern attempts at reconstructing, reinventing or reimagining the practices of the druids are called Neo-druidism.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Druids

Nature Centered Spirituality
Many Druids are animists, which is sometimes mischaracterized by modern commentators as "nature worship." Like the Native Americans, most Druids see all aspects of nature as imbued with spirit, a soul if you will, whether or not they interpret that literally or metaphorically. Like the deities of the Celts, the animals and plants are seen as members of a Tuatha, or tribe. The spirits of nature are seen as relatives of an extended family and are therefore honored as kin. The whole of nature along with the other spirits of the unseen realm are seen as a large tribe of tribes, a familial way of describing the interconnectedness of the ecosystem that is the earth. The mother Goddess Danu gives her name to both the tribe of the deities, and the overall tribe of tribes, which in the Gaelic is the "Tuatha De Danaan," the tribe of Danu. The hierarchical concept of worship involving submission and obedience by us as lesser beings is not a concept compatible with Druidry, despite the frequent misunderstanding base on the Judeo-Christian hierarchical concept of worship.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neo-druidism

Chapter 35

The Man who mistook a Weasel for a Hamster

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Originally Posted by Snail
I know that you are all secretly emotionally affected by cuteness, even if you pretend to be ruthless and cold. You just know better than to admit your weakness.

Reply:

This is the Acute Perception Game when the Wolfman mistakes a Weasel for a Hamster. You can't peg down the Ferret (later she may Weasle out of it) once she has broken free of the chains (Andromeda game). If the Wolfman is really randy and crooked he gets stung by a Queen Bee (or a Queen of Hearts Bear) as well. Escapades on the "D" Train.

http://www.intpforum.com/showthread.php?t=1282&page=22

Greek Mythology - Alphabetical List of Greek Gods

Greek Mythology - Alphabetical List of Greek Gods

http://www.purplehell.com/riddletools/g-list.htm

The Caduceus of Mercury (Roman) and the Karykeion of Hermes (Greek)

The Caduceus of Mercury (Roman) and the Karykeion of Hermes (Greek)

Hermes
For then she bare a son, of many shifts, blandly cunning, a robber, a cattle driver, a bringer of dreams, a watcher by night, a thief at the gates, one who was soon to show forth wonderful deeds among the deathless gods. Born with the dawning, at mid-day he played on the lyre, and in the evening he stole the cattle of far-shooting Apollo on the fourth day of the month; for on that day queenly Maia bare him. So soon as he had leaped from his mother's heavenly womb, he lay not long waiting in his holy cradle, but he sprang up and sought the oxen of Apollo. But as he stepped over the threshold of the high-roofed cave, he found a tortoise there and gained endless delight.
http://ancienthistory.about.com/library/bl/bl_text_homerhymn_hermes.htm

Then Hermes answered her with crafty words: `Mother, why do you seek to frighten me like a feeble child whose heart knows few words of blame, a fearful babe that fears its mother's scolding? Nay, but I will try whatever plan is best, and so feed myself and you continually.
So saying, Apollo twisted strong withes with his hands meaning to bind Hermes with firm bands; but the bands would not hold him, and the withes of osier fell far from him and began to grow at once from the ground beneath their feet in that very place. And intertwining with one another, they quickly grew and covered all the wild-roving cattle by the will of thievish Hermes, so that Apollo was astonished as he gazed.

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The Caduceus of Mercury (Roman) and the Karykeion of Hermes (Greek)

Many "medical" organisations use a symbol of a short rod entwined by two snakes and topped by a pair of wings, which is actually the caduceus or magic wand of the Greek god Hermes (Roman Mercury), messenger of the gods, inventor of (magical) incantations, conductor of the dead and protector of merchants and thieves. It is derived from the Greek karykeion = "herald's staff", itself based on the word "eruko" meaning restrain, control.
http://www.drblayney.com/Asclepius.html

Image
http://www.flickr.com/photos/paulinsf/2236513014/

Hermes

Hermes (Greek, Ἑρμῆς, IPA: /ˈhɝmiːz/) is the messenger of the gods in Greek mythology. An Olympian god, he is also the patron of boundaries and of the travelers who cross them, of shepherds and cowherds, of thieves and road travelers, of orators and wit, of literature and poets, of athletics, of weights and measures, of invention, of general commerce, and of the cunning of thieves and liars.[1] His symbols include the tortoise, the rooster, the winged sandals, and the caduceus. The analogous Roman deity is Mercury.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hermes

Comment: I can only see the literature connection with the Butterfly types (ESFP). I am not sure I understand the Tortoise (it seems like the opposite) or the caduceus (which seems like ENTP).

Door 101

Do you feel bewildered and even get badly defeated by stupid Rodent types (ESXJ) because the Guardians (SJ) in charge of the resources cannot see where you are at, and you cannot explain.

The Rats (ESXJ) being fellow Guardians can connect better and the Hawks (INTJ) lack the Perception and go along with the crowd (often secretly).

The Artisans (SP) are more akin but their Picnic games are bewildering and seem mean and the Cats (ISFP) and other Irrationals (SF) leave you scratching on the outside of the door. Or do even have the courtesy to tell you where the door is located. Somehow, I/you are meant to guess (or use Feeling) from a myriad of possibilities, with each Door guarded by a Psychopathic Unicorn (ESFJ variant).

The Unruly Hedge

If you are a Rational (NT) and your Boss, Mother-in-Law, Parents are Irrationals (SF) you are in for a horrid time.

The irrationals are the Cats (ISFP), Butterflies (often musicians) (ESFP), and the dreaded Horsemen and Pony girls (ESFJ) and the Rodents (XSFJ - ISFJ).

The Book: More Dialogue SODA

SODA METHOD OF PICKING UP TARTS

Spot (how long do you observe?) Revised to Scanning (as done by telepaths)
Orient
Decide
Action

Is the glass full or half empty. It is half full of liquid and half full of air, said the Engineer. Does it move? asked the Architect.

Elf Rescue

The Nereid Elf that helped Perseus cut the chains

OODA Loop Extract

The OODA Loop (for Observe, Orient, Decide and Act) is a concept applied to the combat operations process, often at strategic level in both the military and commercial operations. It was created by military strategist and USAF Colonel John Boyd.


The key is to obscure your intentions and make them unpredictable to your opponent while you simultaneously clarify his intentions. That is, operate at a faster tempo to generate rapidly changing conditions that inhibit your opponent from adapting or reacting to those changes and that suppress or destroy his awareness. Thus, a hodgepodge of confusion and disorder occur to cause him to over- or under-react to conditions or activities that appear to be uncertain, ambiguous, or incomprehensible.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/OODA_Loop

Fall of Tyrus

In the twenty-eighth chapter of the book of Ezekiel, we find the amazing description of the fall of Tyre, also known as Tyrus. The entire prophecy concerning Tyrus actually stretches from chapter twenty-six to chapter twenty-eight.
http://tinyurl.com/8k9cfx

"And I will make thee like the top of a rock: thou shalt bea place to spread nets upon; thou shalt be built no more:for I the LORD have spoken it, saith the Lord GOD...For thus saith the Lord GOD; When I shall make thee a desolate city,like the cities that are not inhabited; when I shall bring up the deep upon thee, and great waters shall cover thee;When I shall bring thee down with them that descend into the pit, with the people of old time, and shall set thee in the low parts of the earth, in places desolate of old, with them that go down to the pit, that thou be not inhabited; and I Shall set glory in the land of the living; I will make the terror, and thou shalt be no more: though thou be sought for, yet shalt thou never be found again, saith the Lord GOD." (Ezekiel 26:14, 19-21)

Max-Neef on Human Needs

Max-Neef on Human Needs and Human-scale Development

Conventional western ideas of development and progress are seen by many as a root cause of rainforest destruction and other aspects of the global ecological crisis, but what are the alternatives? Development as it is usually conceived is based on a particular view of human nature. This view, which is taken for granted by economic rationalists, assumes that human beings are driven by a limitless craving for material possessions. Max-Neef’s conception of what human beings need, and what motivates them, is fundamentally different. If decision-makers operated according to his assumptions rather than those of most economists, then the choices they made would change radically. This article by Kath Fisher outlines Max-Neef's ideas on human needs and Human-scale Development.
http://www.rainforestinfo.org.au/background/maxneef.htm

The Book: Miscellaneous Dialogue

'Can I borrow your partner for a few minutes. It is not that I am madly in love with her. It is just that being a single boy I get bothered by girls, especially clingers, and if I could collapse into her arms at the first sign of trouble, and whisper dirty stories in her lug to keep her amused, or horrified, with the appropriate exclamation: Oh you are so awful! This would be a great help.'

'That was some mouthful. You could say all that without pausing for a breath. You ought to be a singer with an Irish folk band.'

'Balls ache. Her idea of affection is a kick in the goolies.'

Chapter 34

The Seahorse Panda wants her Brother in next door so she (he) can find her mate which will be a Bully or a Horseman and therefore incompatible if either sex with me for relationship purposes and will attract sexual jealousy for hell purposes. The situation is impossible to live with.

The Seahorse Panda and Eagle are at odds to the point of Murder.

Chapter 33

I went to the Royal Sovereign (or the Bucket of Blood) and spotted a heavyweight male Dragon (INFP) at Critical Stress and in predatory mode. In this condition they make disparaging remarks and can be competitive and aggressive, if not downright dangerous.

It was home territory but not very well known and there was only one friend. There seemed to be plenty of talent around (perhaps even some Secretaries), but it was too dark to ascertain the Guardian quotient.

In short, I was too distressed to handle it and went out to sea (the Ship). This was for the decor, not the people.

Later, a ghost walked over my grave and I chilled out just a little.

Psi Cop & Corps (Babylon 5)

Freud is 80% fraud, all except the E for Ego

The difference between the Psi Cops

(psychiatrists)

and the Psi Corps (psychologists) is the R for

Relationship

Transference

Transference is the tendency for a client in psychotherapy, known as the analysand, to transfer emotional responses to their therapists that reflect feelings the analysand has for other significant people in his or her life. Transference often echoes clients' relationships with their parents or with other persons who played a central role in their childhood.

http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_g2699/is_/ai_2699000345

Snake is Hissing

It's the judgement call of the other people that makes me depressed. Notably, all the Horsemen (ESFJ), most of the Bullies (ESFJ), the Wolfman (ENTJ) and the conniving secretive Hawks (INTJ). They all judge me wrongly. I am not so keen on the games Bears (ISTP) and Cats (ISFP) play either.

That leaves just the Skylarks (INFP), Rainy Day Butterflies (ESFP), Eagles (INTP), Dragons (INFP), Snakes (ENTP), Ferrets whom I love (ENFP), with a wary open mind about the dangerous Panther (ESTP).

Dogs (ISTJ) are boring and can make me seeth as they act on instructions from narcissist Wolves. Which leaves the Beaver (ENFJ) which mostly I don't get on with and the last one is the Mouse (ISFJ) which contaminate. Clean Hamsters (ISFJ) are tolerable.

Biggest disdain for the Camelhead (ESFJ variant) and an enemy Wolf. Beware of the Panda (ISTP variant) and the Unicorn (ESFJ variant). Love the Secretary Bird (IXXJ).

Chapter One (Second Draft)

Chapter One




With bear-like determination she stalked over to sit next to me from the other side of the saloon bar.

'Are you gay?' she asked bluntly.

'No, I am a crocodile.' I answered mysteriously and with a heavy heart.

She sucked through a straw on a Snowball (a mixture of Advocaat and Lemonade).

I did not know actually who she was. I strongly suspected she belonged to a criminal gang and I was being propositioned, perhaps lured into a world in which my lower middle class upbringing had not equipped me to cope with. I was feeling vulnerable.

She was not phased by my reply for long. Another pint of rough cider appeared in front of me.

'Are you gay?' she repeated. My face showed perplexity.

'You just asked me,' I replied.

'And you came up with what you must know is rather a strange reply.'

'Well, it was rather a strange question,' I answered back.

I was wired and running on a heady mixture of adrenalin and alcohol.




I sensed she was beginning to get irritable, if not a shade angry. My mind scan guessed she was deciding if I was mad or drunk or both, or perhaps she thought I was high on illicit drugs?

Her full breasts heaved with her excited breathing and stretched the thin brownish cream fabric of her blouse. Her long blonde hair was streaked with a red dye. But my gaze was already wandering.

'There is nothing wrong with being gay,' she suggested.

I was jerked back to attention.

'Crocodiles get a very bad time of it,' I replied with an outwardly broad and friendly smile. 'You may think that we cannot cry, but it is just that you cannot see our tears.'

I took a large gulp of cider.

'So I am not gay at all, I am miserable,' I admitted.

'Is that why you drink?'

I shook my head.

'I come into the pub for company. To find some friends, but most of the time, I seem to be surrounded by idiots.'

She was conventionally attractive in a rough hewn artisan sort of way.

'Do you go to work?' I asked.

'If looking after a family of six boys and a young girl is work, yes, I work very hard.'

'I suppose you know a lot of things, about children and barbecues and picnics,' I suggested.

Chapter 32

The Barbecue.

The Picnic.

Gaslight

A bell clangs in the early evening gloom of a foggy Victorian street as the muffin man does his rounds, while in the tall, forbidding house which is becoming her prison, Bella Manningham is slowly losing her mind. Her husband's tyranny and the insolence of her housemaid, plus the air of mystery in her home, have driven her almost to breaking-point ... So the scene was set for - Patrick Hamilton's powerful thriller, "Gaslight".

Set at the end of the last century, the play shows how a married woman in those days was completely controlled by her husband, and had very little chance to make her voice heard, even when trapped in a situation like Bella, the wife in this piece.

While Jack Manningham goes out on the town each evening, his wife cowers alone in her room, lit by the shadowy gaslight, listening to the mysterious footsteps overhead. When an unexpected visitor turns out to be an ex-policeman, Sergeant Rough, Bella realises she's caught in some very sinister happenings.

http://lucilla-dramatic.merseyside.org/pastproductions/gaslight.html

Santa Claus is a Hoodie

New introduction:

Did you see the fat guy outside with a beard and a hood? He looks pretty mean.


You must think Santa Clause weird
He has long hair and a beard
Giving his presents for free

New Chorus

Santa Claus is a hoodie
Santa Claus is a hoodie


Let's get Santa Clause 'cause;
Santa Clause has a red suit
He's a communist
And a beard, and long hair
Must be a pacifist
What's in the pipe that he's smoking?

Santa Claus is a hoodie
Santa Claus is a hoodie

Mister Clause sneaks in your home at night.
He must be a dope fiend, to put you up tight

Santa Claus is a hoodie
Santa Claus is a hoodie

Original by Arlo Guthrie

http://tinyurl.com/ygqnld

How Many Fs can you find ? (Finished Files)

How Many Fs can you find in the following text?

The Author or Skylark (INFJ) in a Hostile Environment

The Author or Skylark (INFJ) in a hostile environment

They respond to praise and use approval as a means of motivating others, just as they, the INFJs, are motivated by approval. If they are subject to a hostile, unfriendly working condition or to constant criticism, they tend to lose confidence, become unhappy and immobilized, and finally become physically ill.

http://www.gesher.org/Myers-Briggs/Profiles--FJ.HTM#INFJ

Notes: feeling types are more vulnerable to bullying. There is a gender difference with Feeling characteristics of 60% females and 40% males.

Chapter 31

Secretary Bird (IXXJ) and the Snake scene.

Also, the nature of the Dryad, and the Pixies.

Forensic Psychologist

Forensic psychologist (prison and probation services): Job description and activities

http://tinyurl.com/63bo9q

Walrus & Carpenter

"The time has come," the Walrus said,

"To talk of many things:
Of shoes—and ships—and sealing-wax—
Of cabbages—and kings—
And why the sea is boiling hot—
And whether pigs have wings."
”
—Through the Looking-Glass

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Walrus_and_the_Carpenter

I aim to be the Walrus, not the Carpenter.

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Explanation of theoretical approaches
Both counsellors and psychotherapists work from a variety of theoretical approaches with their clients. These therapies range from the type of psychoanalysis, originally practised by Sigmund Freud and later developed into other forms of analytic psychotherapy by his pupils, through humanistic psychotherapy (based on personal growth and self development) to the behavioural therapies used for dealing with specific phobias and anxieties.

The following web page has an alphabetical list of commonly used theoretical approaches with brief descriptions of their meanings

http://www.bacp.co.uk/seeking_therapist/theoretical_approaches.php

My Modern Animism system which is very like the Myers-Briggs system is Jungian and that is not on the list.

The Millon Map is nearest to the Existential, which I see the Millon Map (Spinning Top) as an overlay program.

Chapter 30

I think I mistook a Peregrine (INTX) for a Mongoose (ENFP).

A young Sparrowhawk (INTJ) appeared.

The Mongoose was missed. Not recognised as significant.

But important all the same because of the Unicorn (ESFJ) attack.

Best Links

Blog Entries
Most Frequently Visited Blog Entries


Type Relationships
http://soredragon.blogspot.com/2008/07/type-relationships.html

Careers and Personalities

http://soredragon.blogspot.com/2008/08/careers-and-personalities-2.html
http://www.gesher.org/Myers-Briggs/Types%20and%20Career.htm
http://www.teamtechnology.co.uk/careers/what-career-is-right-for-me.html

Inferior Function Under Stress
http://home.att.net/~revdak/spir243/quenk.htm

Modern Animism World (Latest Revision)
http://soredragon.blogspot.com/2008/07/modern-animism-world-latest-revision_25.html

Keirsey Personality Types
http://soredragon.blogspot.com/2008/07/keirsey-personality-types.html

Paragon Grid
http://www.oswego.edu/plsi/16TYPE.htm

Personal Growth
http://soredragon.blogspot.com/2008/07/personal-growth-direct-links.html

Writing Style
http://soredragon.blogspot.com/2008/08/writing-style.html

Millon Personality Circulargram
http://www.millon.net/taxonomy/index.htm

Personality DifferencesE v I : S v N : F v T : J v P
http://www.personalitytest.net/types/definitions.htm


Cognitive Processes Example
http://www.cognitiveprocesses.com/intp.html

Chapter 24

This Chapter 24 has been left out by oversight. The sulky Cat (ESFP) has been very naughty. She has been sent up to her room and her Master will bring her a glass of water.

The young Petrolhead has been sent back to the scullery.

I have yet to decide of which of her nine lives is effected and what type is her Master. It is not the first time she has misbehaved very badly.

Questor (not the Champion)

Champion (ENFP): Motivating FERRET

This I believe this not to be the Champion (a Guardian error) but the Questor, the extrovert Dragon.

Tess Stimson (Writer)

Tess Stimson was born and brought up in Sussex, England. As a child, she lived for several years in Greece and Africa, before winning a scholarship to Notre Dame School, Lingfield. She subsequently read English at St. Hilda’s College, Oxford, where she received the Eleanor Rooke Award (for English Literature), the Dorothy Whitelock Award (for Anglo-Saxon), and was made an Exhibitioner.

http://www.tessstimson.com/about.aspx

Wolves hunting Horses

The Wolves (ENTJ) are hunting down all the errant Horsemen (ESFJ) as they are incompatible. One problem is that an Eagle (INTP) on the grip on Inferior Function (Critical Stress) resembles a Horsemen in psychological projection. It may appear identical, but it is not because the Eagle uses logic to an extreme degree.

The Horse-ravished girls in the shop window.

The First Story (Notes and Possible Revision)

This is higher than politics and is really just the Mongoose and the
Snake game. Except it was complicated by two of the Mongoose types and
a Unicorn under the Crazy Horse (Critical Stress) who attacked me and
further complications.

The problem for me was that the ambush and attack was so unexpected and
incomprehensible that I was completely lost and panic stricken. The
second problem is that I did not know about the activities of the
stalker (originally thought to be a Panda, now thought to be an ambivalent weathervane Guardian, possibly a malignant Cat). And I did not realise that Snakes spooking Horsemen was
incurable and fixed. The Horsement are not rationals. All the Guards
see the world from their fixed and rigid dimension.

If you are in this position, avoid the Ceremonies of the Horsemen (this
meant to be a Barbecue), and be careful of the Teddy Bear's Picnic, and
all Pandas. None of these things did I do.

In the fiction version, the Nuclear Bomb (which even the Chief of
Police did not foresee) gets detonated and all the Reds head for the
fall out shelters.

Rock of Gibraltar

Why the Rock of Gibraltar is British. A variation on the Andromeda theme and the Wolf Lady (Queen of Hearts)

Falling in love at your age. How awful!

Chapter 29

Woman *(Wolf) with the Silver Cross

Final Chapter

Beware of the following attack modes by these bastards:

1) Hypnotism and plied drinks in the community.
In the spirit of bonhomie, you may be drugged and hypnotised and suggestions planted in your head.

2) Skullduggery.
You may be rendered unconscious and expertly kicked in your head in such a way, that it is an attempt at brainwashing.

3) Honey Trap
You may be lured into a compromising or unsuitable relationship by sex magic. Or you could have a psychotic Stalking Horse tracking your every move.

4) Identity Theft
Your identity may be stripped from you and then are turned into a non-person, with no history, no friends, no life at all. All your achievements will be stolen and put in the name of Another.

1) Do not maintain the illusion that you are immune from hypnotism. Only very stupid people are and they will not be reading this.

2) This is impossible to defend against. An ambush can occur at any time.

3) This one is not unpleasant, except you have to have your wits about you or else you could end up with a Pony Girl or Crazy Horse, which is OK if they are intelligent (not recommended) but are a nightmare if they are a bit thick (most of them are).

4) It is difficult to know what to do about this one with ideas, although work can be copyrighted. This is the penultimate sanction of totalitarian societies, before suicide or murder.

Cruel Sister

There lived a lady by the North Sea shore
(Lay the bent to the bonnie broom)
Two daughters were the babes she bore
(Fa la la la la la la la la la)

alternating with each of the lines below>

As one grew bright as is the sun,
So coal black grew the elder one.

A knight came riding to the lady's door,
He'd travelled far to be their wooer.

He courted one with gloves and rings,
But he loved the other above all things.

Oh sister will you go with me
To watch the ships sail on the sea?

She took her sister by the hand
And led her down to the North Sea strand.

And as they stood on the windy shore
The dark girl threw her sister o'er.

Sometimes she sank, sometimes she swam,
Crying, "Sister, reach to me your hand!

"Oh Sister, Sister, let me live,
And all that's mine I'll surely give."

"(It's) your own true love that I'll have and more,
But thou shalt never come ashore."

And there she floated like a swan,
The salt sea bore her body on.

Two minstrels walked along the strand
And saw the maiden float to land.

They made a harp of her breastbone,
Whose sound would melt a heart of stone.

They took three locks of her yellow hair,
And with them strung the harp so rare.

They went into her father's hall
To play the harp before them all,

But when they laid it on a stone
The harp began to play alone.

The first string sang a doleful sound:
"The bride her younger sister drowned."

The second string as that they tried,
In terror sits the black-haired bride.

The third string sang beneath their bow,
"And surely now her tears will flow

http://www.lyricsdownload.com/pentangle-cruel-sister-lyrics.html

Apotropaic Magic

Apotropaic magic
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
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The ancient blue and white "Nazar boncuğu" symbol, a stylised eye thought to "avert evil", appears on this contemporary airplaneApotropaic magic is a ritual observance that is intended to turn away evil. It can be as elaborate as the use of magical ceremonies or spells, or as simple as the vaguely superstitious carrying or wearing of a "good luck" token or "charm" (perhaps on a charm bracelet), crossing one's fingers or knocking on wood.

"Apotropaic" is an adjective that means "intended to ward off evil" or "averting or deflecting evil" and commonly refers to objects such as amulets or other symbols. The word is of Greek origin: apotrope literally means "turning away" or averting (as in "averting the evil eye"). The Greeks propitiated the chthonic "Gods of Aversion"—the apotropaioi.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gorgoneion#Apotropaic_symbols

Andromeda

Andromeda was a woman from Greek mythology who, as divine punishment for her mother's bragging, was chained to a rock as a sacrifice to a sea monster. She was saved from death by Perseus, her future husband. Her name is the Latinized form of the Greek Ανδρομέδη (Andromēde). The etymology of the name is "to think of a man," from ανδρός (andros) "man" combined with μήδομαι (mēdomai) "to think, to be mindful of."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andromeda_(mythology)

Her mother Cassiopeia bragged that she was more beautiful than the Nereids, the nymph-daughters of the sea god Nereus and often seen accompanying Poseidon. To punish the Queen for her arrogance, Poseidon, brother to Zeus and God of the Sea, sent a sea monster called Cetus to ravage the coast of Ethiopia and the kingdom of the vain Queen. The desperate King consulted the Ammon, the Oracle of Zeus, who announced that no respite would be found until the king sacrificed his virgin daughter Andromeda to the monster. She was chained naked to a rock on the coast of Jaffa. The rock is allegedly still visible today.
Perseus, returning from having slain the Gorgon Medusa, found Andromeda and slew the monster Cetus. He set her free, and married her in spite of Andromeda having been previously promised to Phineus. At the wedding a quarrel took place between the rivals, and Phineus was turned to stone by the sight of the Gorgon's head (Ovid, Metamorphoses v. 1).

We See Things

WE DON'T SEE THINGS AS THEY ARE ...

WE SEE THINGS AS WE ARE

Love Minus Zero

My love she speaks like silence
Without ideals or violence
She doesn't have to say she's faithful
Yet she's true like ice like fire
People carry roses
And make promises by the hours
My love she laughs like the flowers
Valentines can't buy her
In the dime stores and bus stations
People talk of situations
Read books repeat quotations
Draw conclusions on the wall
Some speak of the future
My love she speaks softly
She knows there's no success like failure
And that failure's no success at all
The cloak and dagger dangles
Madams light the candles
In ceremonies of the horsemen
Even the pawn must hold a grudge

http://www.tsrocks.com/b/bob_dylan_texts/love_minus_zero.html

Eight Flags of Malignancy (Reassessment)

Here are Eight Flags of Malignancy:


· puts on a conspicuous display of goodness and kindness

I observed this with the Camelhead crew. It is not necessarily an indication of malignant narcissism though. It may just be goodwill without an agenda.

· damages the images of most others

This does seem to be malignancy, but there may also be a genuine grievance, e.g. in an acrimonious divorce.

· has a history of past upheavals

A sure sign, you would think, but a Weasel could actually poison the image of somebody else over a long period of time like a malignant stalker operating a different world view.

· is hated for mysterious reasons by people close to them

The Snake spooks the Horseman and is hated by them. They see the world differently.

· exhibits unnatural and perplexing behavior — backwards reactions to things

Guardians and Idealists will see the world from a totally different perspective.

· is a control freak, trampling privacy/boundaries

Trespass is a minor crime. Repeated trespass may be an indication.

· is extremely self-absorbed

Selfish people are a pain.

· has a hostile reaction to attention and credit given others

Hostility is the key. Others may vehemently disagree with opinions.

Interrogation & Brainwashing

The authorative method is to hypnotise the targeted subject, and if this does not work is to render him unconscious and then the subject is vulnerable. Vulnerable subjects in the majority of cases are meant to be vulnerable to post-hypnotic suggestion. He can then be gaslighted. The only problem is that it does not always work and the target commits suicide or is murdered. Sometimes he is emotionally murdered and is then buried alive emotionally.

Post hypnotic suggestions can be Christianity, the Corporation absurdist policies. The defence is your own beliefs or philosophy, which work better if they are mainstream psychological science.

Watch this space for more.

Second Book: Newcastle

Sunday: Glaucus/Neptune
Stormy Monday
Ruby Tuesday: Obedience Day
Lousy Wednesday
Sweet Thursday
Long Good Friday
Saturnia: the terrestrial planet

Some Characters in the Story

Some Characters in the Story

Chapter One

Ferret : (ENFP) alias Weasel
Unicorn (ESFJ sadistic variant)
Camelhead (ESFJ malignant variant)
Horse Lady * (ESFJ)
Skylark *(INFJ)

Chapter Two

Pony Boy (ESFJ)
Horseman (ESFJ)
Ferret * (ENFP)
Panda (ISTP malignant variant)
Bear Lady * (ISTP)
Catwoman * (ISFP)
Suitor (probably ISTP corrupted)

Authorites

Picnic Lady * (scalded ESFJ, runs the Barbecue)
Chief (ENFJ regresses to ESTJ)
Agent * (INTJ)

Incidentals

Puff the Magic Dragon *(malignant INFP)
Fauna at the Pet Shop *(ISTP)

Chapter 28

The Mongoose (ENFP) torments the Snake (ENTP).

Type Relationships says Companion.

Companion
similar modes of expression: bear each other's company well

Puff the Magic Dragon (Malignant INFP) terrorises the Snake.

How the malignant Weasel (ENFP) is Made and other Stories

How the malignant Weasel (ENFP) is Made and other Stories

She (or he) starts off as an honest Ferret and marries a Horseman (because she is so keen on new experiences like sex, and the Horses are the randiest players around) and then gets beaten about a bit. Therefore, she runs off with a third person. When she returns to hubbie, she has to Weasel her way out with all her lies eliminating her casual lover (who becomes a casualty).

It is the Eagle (INTP) that is most at danger because of the attraction between the two and because the Eagle cannot see how he or she attracts the opposite sex.

Wolfman in Charge

The Wolfman in Charge

http://www.cognitiveprocesses.com/entj.html

With Extraverted Feeling as the last in the shadow processes as the devil, the Wolfman does not consider the feelings of the group (or indivduals)

http://www.cognitiveprocesses.com/extravertedfeeling.html

The process of extraverted Feeling often involves a desire to connect with (or disconnect from) others and is often evidenced by expressions of warmth (or displeasure) and self-disclosure. The “social graces,” such as being polite, being nice, being friendly, being considerate, and being appropriate, often revolve around the process of extraverted Feeling. Keeping in touch, laughing at jokes when others laugh, and trying to get people to act kindly to each other also involve extraverted Feeling.

Ask Little Red Riding Hood, whose feelings he considered.

http://www.cafepress.com/redridinghood

At best, he can be an Administrator, and leave the other psychological aspects to Human Resources.

Even worse, when he cannot do this part of the job he regresses to being a Bully (ESFJ).

Chapter 27 Gallic Lady & the Pet Shop Bears

I saw a Gallic lady* last night in a very temperamental unhappy way, just like me on many occasions (the Wolves call this the Howl, but it is something different when done by Dragons) and at first it seemed just like a minor infraction rather than grief caused by what amounts to a boyfriend/stalker. The trouble is I was very depressed myself (very much so last night) and I wanted to keep my cool. No nightmares, thank God!

Eagles don't howl, they utter a caustic precision sound. However, although the utterer may be in great distress, it does not come across like this to other people. Only other Eagles can hear the sound of distress. This did sound caustic. It was not very attractive. Hideous even.

Ordinary Eagle sound:
http://www.metacafe.com/watch/1206569//

*I was not paying much attention, but it looked like a Bear chasing one of the fliers, a Dragon, Skylark or Eagle, or perhaps the extrovert equivalents of Ferret, Beaver or Snake. There is a rider on this one as I first scanned her in as an acting Rodent (ISXJ). Therefore, she deserves everything she gets and the rest was just an act. She ran off on her own, back to the party.

On the same night Simon Smith was making a Bear dance. Bears, who would have them? I tried once. Never again outside of the pet shop.

Chapter 26

This is the scene when the fertilser bomb explodes in the toilet.

Cat v Eagle

A section is devoted to using this information with problem solving and communication. All eight functions are needed when dealing with problems. Here is where the value of the combined skills of a group are shown to be greater than those of the individual, assuming the group process allows for all of the eight functions to be utilized. When looking at how the eight functions relate to communication, diagramming the dynamics of each type will help show the difficulties of communicating and what must be done to alleviate the problem. E.g.: An INTP has Ti as the Leading process while an ISFP has Ti in the eight position or the Devilish process. This makes it It is easier to see why these two types have difficulty in communicating and why they have to work at overcoming these difficulties.

Berens, Linda V., Dynamics of Personality Type: Understanding and Applying Jung’s Cognitive Processes, Huntington Beach, CA: Telos Publications, 1999, ISBN 0-9664624-5-9, 60 pp

http://www.trytel.com/~jfalt/Rev-per-type/dyn-ber.html

ISFP: "Artist" = CAT 5% Synthesizing (part of Composing)
Goes where she enjoys best advantage. Independent and unfaithful if neglected.

INTP: "Architect" = EAGLE 1% Designing
High flier in the clouds with talons.

What is Gang Stalking?

What is Gang Stalking?


Gang Stalking is a systemic form of control, which seeks to control every aspect of a Targeted Individuals life. Gang Stalking has many similarities to workplace mobbing, but takes place outside in the community. It called Gang Stalking, because the target is followed around and placed under intrusive and directed surveillance by groups of organised "Covert Human Intelligence Sources" also known as Citizen Informants 24/7. Using anti-terror laws to spy on ordinary people.

Many Targeted Individuals are harassed and placed under surveillance in this way for months or even years before they realise that they are being targeted by an organised protocol of harassment.

http://www.gangstalkingworld.com/GSFAQ.html

Sometimes Satan comes as a Man of Peace

--- In bullyonline@yahoogroups.com, Bonnie Calcagno wrote:
>
> For those who want to turn their lemons (experienced of being
> bullied) into lemonade, I would recommend a look at www.HRDQ. There
> you will find programs on:
>
> Learning to Listen
> Personal Style Inventory
> The Art and Science of Communication
> Teampower (building effective teams)
> Benchmarks of Team Excellence
> Trust
> Team Effectiveness Profile
> Increasing Your Emotional Intelligence
> Best Boss Inventory
> Supervisory Skills
> Leading Change At Every Level
> Negotiating Win-Win Solutions
> Conflict Strategies Inventory etc.
>
> I think in every workplace where bullying takes place there exists an
> absence of knowledge of how to make things better.
>
> Bonnie
>

Hello,

This "lemonade" symbolism I failed to understand at the first attempt. Made a passing understanding and forgot about at the second attempt. For the the third time:

The Devilish Role (sometimes referred to as the 8th function)
The devilish role can be quite negative. Using the process that plays this role, we might become destructive of ourselves or others. Actions (or inactions) taken when we engage in the process that plays this role are often regretted later. Usually, we are unaware of how to use the process that fills this role and feel like it just erupts and imposes itself rather unconsciously. Yet when we are open to the process that plays the devilish role, it becomes transformative. It gives us the impetus to create something new—to make lemonade out of lemons, rather than lament their sourness.

I knew it before as:

Good intentions can be evil,
Both hands can be full of grease.
You know that sometimes Satan comes as a man of peace.

Well, first he's in the background, then he's in the front,
Both eyes are looking like they're on a rabbit hunt.
Nobody can see through him,
No, not even the Chief of Police.
You know that sometimes Satan comes as a man of peace.

http://dylanchords.info/25_infidels/man_of_peace.htm

The Scientist as the Critical Parent

Leading
Introverted iNtuiting Ni
Foreseeing implications, transformations, and likely effects

http://www.cognitiveprocesses.com/intj.htmlThis is the leading process.

cf.

Critical Parent for the INTP

http://www.cognitiveprocesses.com/intp.html

The Critical Parent Role (sometimes referred to as the 6th function)
The critical parent role is how we find weak spots and can immobilize and demoralize others. We can also feel this way when others use the process that plays this role. It is often used sporadically and emerges more often under stressful conditions when something important is at risk. When we engage it, we can go on and on. To access its positive side of discovery, we must learn to appreciate and be open to it. Then it has an almost magical quality and can provide a profound sense of wisdom.

http://www.cognitiveprocesses.com/16types.html

Horseplay and Straining up under the Bear

Defence mode. It is not me. I see the signs. It is not a modern phenomonen. It has been going on for millennia. The Horseman of Attila were a powerful gang.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attila

The Guardian (SJ) types tend to think the world is how they actually cognitively see it and go around eliminating anyone that does not fit in with their world view. They own property interests and may control the resources.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Guardian_temperament

They actually suffer stress when faced with Dragons (INFP) and Snakes (ENTP). They are then said to be spooked.

The symptoms could be:
http://home.att.net/~revdak/spir243/quenk.htm

ESFJ Horsemen twisted logic it says, but it is really twisted judgement and the deductions from the original premise can be logical and violent. The horseplay is meant to be fun. In the extreme form it is called paranoid schizophrenia (Crazy Horse)and it is very dangerous.
They conduct something called "Ceremonies of the Horsemen". Rugby clubs, motorcycle gangs, football supporters, etc. engage in this form of behaviour.

ISFP bears are a group characterised by compulsive actions which are a thorough nuisance but not as dangerous. This is run by the Picnic Controller and this should be really good fun, but can end up in bundles and fights. Kiss chase occurs at the picnic. These are Artisans rather than Guardians, and do not hate the Snakes and Dragons.

In Court, such silly behaviour is not condoned.

Shadow Processes of Deceit and Devilry

The new thing about these web pages are the shadow processes.

e.g.
http://www.cognitiveprocesses.com/esfp.html (Panther)

Evaluation is by deceitful processs. I think that these are not open to scrutiny which may occur with other types. The Idealists (NF) may not trust these self-interested entrepreneurs. They might think they are up to no good with good reason.

Good News Week

When things get so bad, there is only one move left (it appears) and that is the Panther Hit, which is something so outrageous and unexpected that .....

It's good news week
Someone's dropped a bomb somewhere
Contaminating atmosphere
And blackening the sky

It's good news week
Someone's found a way to give
The rotting dead a will to live
Go on and never die

Have you heard the news
What did it say?
Who's won that race?
What's the weather like today?

It's good news week
Families shake the need for gold
By stimulating birth control
We're wanting less to eat

It's good news week
Doctors finding many ways
Of wrapping brains on metal trays
To keep us from the heat

It's good news week
Someone dropped a bomb somewhere
Contaminating atmosphere
And blackening the sky

It's good news week
Someone's found a way to give
The rotting dead a will to live
Go on and never die

Have you heard the news
What did it say?
Who's won that race?
What's the weather like today?
What's the weather like today?

It's good news week
Families shake the need for gold
By stimulating birth control
We're wanting less to eat

It's good news week
Doctors finding many ways
Of wrapping brains on metal trays
To keep us from the heat
To keep us from the heat
To keep us from the heat

Erinaceously
http://tinyurl.com/5tlkfy

Queen of Hearts & Ten of Clubs

Modern Animism Link

Modern Animism World (Latest Revision)

http://soredragon.blogspot.com/2008/07/modern-animism-world-latest-revision_25.html

Chapter 25: End Game Tactics

In the End Game the chess pieces are even on the board. I am missing a Bishop and a Queen, which would defeat the lone Knight. But a Knight cannot win on its own, so it is the Pawns that count. Their four pawns are all lined up the same file with an opposing pawn. My King has to protect this pawn. So I can't win within the rules of the game. I must use deceit to sneak two passed pawns on to my side and promote them to the missing pieces. A tricky situation.

The way to cheat at chess is to nobble your opponent. They did that successfully to me through the skullduggery attack. I have now recovered, but lost some material in the intervening period.

If the game is stalemate, who are the new contenders?

INTP Discussion on Relationships

INTP Discussion on Relationships

I think the best choice is the Ferret or Weasel (ENFP). That's if you have enough money. This is the Journalist. I wish I knew this when I was younger. Whether the INTP is the best choice for the ENFP is a different matter altogether ??? The best choice for the ENFP is the INTJ Hawk. I tend to just miss the Ferrets.

Failing that the Wolf (ENTJ) or possibly the Bull (ESTJ). The latter is a Guardian. The latter two may be best if they are earners. The Wolf is usually a Manager and the Bull a bureaucrat. Who then wears the trousers?

http://www.intpforum.com/showthread.php?t=1292

Personality Types under Stress: a new link

Personality Types under Stress: a new link

http://www.iloveulove.com/psychology/personality/perstypestress.htm

Self Analysis

I am definitely an INTP, but very close to a XNXP. Thinking (Rational type by the David Keirsey book) is low because the resolution component is not high (sometimes negligible) like proper Thinkers. This is experience and deduction and might not be in the books. Lack of resolution has made me easily revert to the Dragon.



My stress level is marked by hypersensitivty to relationships (INTP), with only a temptation to impulsive action (INFP). The temptation is baulked by the the Thinking process. It is all very clevery thought out.



Note my job choice if I had the opportunity (limited use made of) in order would be:



Writer (INXP style)

Strategic Planner (INTP)

Graphics Designer (INFP)

Researcher (INFP)

Professor (INXP)

Environmental Planner (INTJ)

Staff Development (INTP)

Poet/Novelist/Playright (INFJ)

Bar Owner/Art Director (ENTP)

Recreation Director (ENFJ)

Chapter 23 Gone

The son of the Priest says she has "Gone with the Wind" and I expect she will, but not the wind, the two missing cards (Star of David) or the Jokerman, or a Wolf in Sheep's clothing, or even an unstoppable Bear. Could be seduced by a Petrolhead.

It will come as a bit of relief in the end. I think the Eagle is doomed to miss the Ferret. Just watch the word go by from a height. If we transform to a Snake the Christians will crucify us. And the same applies if we regress to Dragon. Resolution (high Thinking) does not work cause the Ferret gets poisoned by the Cats.

But the Phoenix is a special case. But he is burned (or buried alive) and cannot play the Jack of Hearts, because he is too honest. Not unless he was born with a golden spoon.

Wolfman ENTJ

At the feeding grounds and watering holes, can any high-flying types outwit the Wolf (ENTJ)?



To snag is the earner has to be an Extravert as nobody is going to come along a put the meat on the plate of an Introvert unless he was born with a golden spoon in his mouth.



The INTP Eagle transforms to the Snake ENTP and has to hide under rocks from the predatory Wolf. Some are venomous, enough to keep the Wolf at bay, but not enough to defeat him. And then there is the rest of the pack.



The INFP Dragon transforms to the ENFP Ferret and this could be become prey to Wolves. The same applies to the flighty Skylark INFJ who becomes the territorial Beaver ENFJ and the successful Hawk INTJ becomes the Wolf.



The powerful positions in society are occupied by Hawks and Wolves with their judgement/perception different from the Architects (INTP) and other birds. This is the middle class.



In the woods there are Bears (ISTP) and Wolves don't mess with unstoppable Bears. Wolves don't mess with Lions (ESTP) and other Big Cats. The latter lot are Working Class and Tradesmen (ESFJ) except for retail and franchise owners who direct.



They have trouble with Horses (ESFJ) and in league with the Dogs (ISTJ).

Guillotine

Guillotine

This method of decapitation is an extreme form of bullying. The executioner is probably a sadist/assertive Horseman (ESFJ), although all Guardians can be prompted to carry out murder given sufficient encourgment. There was a famous scientific test.


In parliamentary procedure, cloture (IPA: /ˈkloʊtʃɝ/, KLO-cher) (also called closure, and sometimes a guillotine) is a motion or process aimed at bringing debate to a quick end.

The procedure originated in the French National Assembly, from which the name in French is taken.


Summary:

If the powers judge then they will chop your head off if you disagree. I do not want to hear any more evidence, the target is guilty as charged with the available data. Off with his head. But .....!

Queen of Hearts
Now, I give you fair warning, either you or your head must be off, and that in about half no time! Take your choice!

ENFP Discoverer Advocate

Another look at personality type ENFP

http://www.cognitiveprocesses.com/enfp.html

Extract:

ENFP - Discoverer Advocate
Theme is inspiration, both of themselves and others. Talents lie in grasping profound significance, revealing truths, and motivating others. Very perceptive of others’ hidden motives and purposes. Interested in everything about individuals and their stories as long as they are genuine. Contagious enthusiasm for “causes” that further good and develop latent potential and the same zeal for disclosing dishonesty and inauthenticity. Frequently moved to enthusiastically communicate their “message.”

Cracking the 4-Letter Type Code

Cracking the 4-Letter Type Code
Jung's Cognitive Processes
Adapted from Linda V. Berens and Dario Nardi, Understanding Yourself and Others®: An Introduction to the Personality Type Code (Telos Publications, 2004) *Used with permission
http://www.cognitiveprocesses.com/crackingthecode.html

Relationship Notes

Relationship Notes


INTP Weaknesses
http://www.personalitypage.com/INTP_rel.html
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My notes in brackets

Not naturally in tune with others' feelings; slow to respond to emotional needs
(This is a big problem, which causes missing mates.)

Not naturally good at expressing their own feelings and emotions
(This OK in privacy and in suitable environments, but hopeless if there is competition or when the INTP feels unsafe)

Tend to be suspicious and distrusting of others
(with good reason)

Not usually good at practical matters, such as money management, unless their work involves these concerns
(Bloody nuisance.)

They have difficulty leaving bad relationships
(Get into a rut)

Tend to "blow off" conflict situations by ignoring them, or else they "blow up" in heated anger
(Can feign unconcern successfully, but is this good policy?)

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Most INFPs will exhibit the following weaknesses with regards to relationship issues:

May tend to be shy and reserved
(A big problem)

Don't like to have their "space" invaded
(yep)
Extreme dislike of conflict
(nope)
Extreme dislike of criticism
(when unfair)
Strong need to receive praise and positive affirmation
(dislike being taken for granted)
May react very emotionally to stressful situations
(can do when seriously bad, but more of an INTP trait)

Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship
Have difficulty scolding or punishing others
(not as recently, but let abuse go on for too long)
Tend to be reserved about expressing their feelings
(with good reason to avoid getting into trouble)
Perfectionist tendencies may cause them to not give themselves enough credit
(?)
Tendency to blame themselves for problems, and hold everything on their own shoulders
(trying not to do this, vented feelings at others)

RELATIONSHIPS

I think the best choice is the Ferret or Weasel (ENFP). That's if you have enough money. This is the Journalist. I wish I knew this when I was younger. Whether the INTP is the best choice for the ENFP is a different matter altogether ??? The best choice for the ENFP is the INTJ Hawk. I tend to just miss the Ferrets.

Link

http://www.personalitypage.com/relationships.html



Failing that the Wolf (ENTJ) or possibly the Bull (ESTJ). The latter is a Guardian. The latter two may be best if they are earners. The Wolf is usually a Manager and the Bull a bureaucrat. Who then wears the trousers?


The worse ones I have found out are the Bear (ISTP), Panda (ISTP variant) or the Horse (ESFJ).


I do not care for the conniving and unfaithful Cat (ISFP) even it if is aspiring to be a Dragon (INTP).


If there is a shortage a young Nurse or Secretary which I call the Little Bear (ISTP) could work, but it went badly wrong for me. That's really only if you are desperate. The same applies to Ponies (ESFJ). The problem is lack of shared interests and matched intelligence. Panda (ISTP variant) could work, but if they are damaged or not very bright it is bad news. The possibility of an identical INTP is more promising, but their would be a problem with income, neither partner being able to really sus out what is going on in the world outside of the fantasy.


The best match for the INFP Dragon (which I revert to under distress) is the Teacher or Beaver (ENFJ). Lack of money is the big problem here. The other possibility is the working Dragon (not the sleeping one) INFP. This applies to the INTP as well. However, these can be Cat-like (ISFP) and these are really bad news.

For a rainy day, the Butterfly (ESFP) is OK.

England is not suited to INTPs. It might be best to go foreign ???

Chapter 22

Project: we (which means just me at the moment) have got to Weasel (ENFP) the contact name out of her. If she was not much "up her own arse" I could have got it with a straight question.

At breakfast time on the morning of 20 November 2008, something changed. To be ascertained.

NB: Feeling more isolated than ever.

Chestnut Mare

Chestnut Mare

Well I was up on Stony Ridge after this chestnut mare
I'd been chasin' her for weeks now. Oh, I'd catch a little glimpse
of her every once in a while; she'd be off takin' her meal, or bathin';
she was a real fine lady!

Well she takes off, runnin' up on to that ridge, higher
than I've ever been before. We're runnin' along just fine, and then
she sees a sidewinder, all coiled up ready to strike. Well that
spooks her, and she jumps off the edge ...me holdin' on!

And we were falling down this crevice, about a mile down there
I'd say! I look down and I see this red thing below us. Turned
out to be our reflection in a little pool of water, about six
feet wide, and only one foot deep, and we're comin' down at it!
Finally we hit and we splashed that pool dry. Well that's when
I lost my hold and she got away. But I'm never gonna' give up,
I'm gonna' get her again some day!

http://www.die-augenweide.de/byrds/

Early Chapter (omitted Before): The Straw that Broke the Camel's Back

The Camelhead (ESFJ variant) is a very 'ornery beastie.

1) Irritable (gets the hump)
2) Never forgets a slight (a Camel never forgets)
3) Can tell lies for a long time without getting thirsty
Spits a lot and has bad breath
4) Lives in a desert with the Scorpions (ESFP variant)
5) Treated badly and beaten by its owner (and quite right too)

I am sure I have written further about Camelheads which caused that problem that resulted in all these messages. Subsequently, as a result of me being totally unprepared by the Camel's behaviour, I have encountered worst problems from Ponies and Horses (ESFJ). This was because I had been badly damaged by a malignant Unicorn (ESFJ variant) and I could not defend myself.

These animals seem to thrive in the sales environment.

The animal folk psychology is still in the course of development and mistakes can be made. The steppes Horse is spooked by the Snake (ENTP) and a very visible and often violent conflict ensues, with the Horse attacking the Snake. The Camel variant is familiar with Snakes and is much more dangerous because of this, with all the spitting and lies and does not attack outright.

In all my naivety I had never come across Horses or Camels before, being naturally adverse to their environment. The distorted judgement of a Horse under stress (the book says distorted logic: their actions are often logical) says the Snake wants to become "Champion the Wonder Horse".

Some other Camel behaviour:
http://soredragon.blogspot.com/2008/06/narcissist-or-camel.html

I am not a Snake, but in periods of self expression, I can demonstrate snake-like characteristics: an example of morph-shifting. The Champion title was thought up by the Guards (SJ).

Andy
Phoenix XNXP from Neptune
http://soredragon.blogspot.com/
There's a Hole in Reality through which We Can Look if We Wish

Confession to the High Priest

Confession to the High Priest

I forgot to say that I have been accused of not paying for my drinks, not paying my debts on time (heinous crime amounting to outright theft), accomplice in stealing gates (another heinous crime like trespass as the land thieves like to fence in property), talking to people without permission in public places (this is another trespass crime), in charge of a disorderly hedge, possession of a large green plastic turtle, being cheeky to the chief Wolfman psychologist, and I daresay other notorious crimes that are not yet on the statute book.

All these are capital offences and constitute the Judgement Day crimes of the condemned man. I think these are the venial sins.

I plead guilty to objecting to cattle grazing on virgin downland, eating psychedelic mushrooms (in my youth), not paying the mooring fees on time (when I had a boat), failing my eleven plus exam, having a phobic fear of crossing high bridges, dislike of rats, listening to Bob Dylan records ...

Dire Wolf Conspiracy (Stalkers)

Stalkers are very Dangerous

Extracts:
Stalkers will often denigrate and objectify their victims. This can help stalkers to abuse their victims without experiencing empathy, and may reflect or fuel a belief that they are entitled to behave as they please toward the victims. Viewing victims as "lesser," "weak" or otherwise seriously flawed can support delusions that the victims need to be rescued, or punished, by the stalkers. Stalkers may slander or defame the character of their victims which may isolate the victims and give the stalkers more control or a feeling of power.

Stalkers may use manipulative behavior such as bringing legal action against their victims. They may also attempt to diagnose victims with false mental illnesses. Stalkers may even threaten to commit suicide in order to coerce victims to intervene - all methods of forcing victims to have contact with the stalkers.

Most stalkers are nonpsychotic and may exhibit disorders or neuroses such as major depression, adjustment disorder, or substance dependence, as well as a variety of Axis II personality disorders, such as antisocial, avoidant, borderline, dependent, narcissistic, or paranoia. Some of the symptoms of "obsessing" over a person is part of obsessive compulsive personality disorder. The nonpsychotic stalkers' pursuit of victims can be influenced by various psychological factors, including anger and hostility, projection of blame, obsession, dependency, minimization and denial, and jealousy.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stalking

Effects of stalking
Stalking does not consist of single incidents, but is a continuous process. Stalking can be a terrifying experience for victims, placing them at risk of psychological trauma, and possible physical harm. As Rokkers writes, "Stalking is a form of mental assault, in which the perpetrator repeatedly, unwontedly, and disruptively breaks into the life-world of the victim, with whom they have no relationship (or no longer have). Moreover, the separated acts that make up the intrusion cannot by themselves cause the mental abuse, but do taken together (cumulative effect)."[2]

Queen Of Hearts (Chapter 21)

Queen Of Hearts Lyrics
Artist: Juice Newton

Lovers, I know you've had a few
But hide your heart beneath the covers and tell 'em they're the only one
And others, they know just what I'm going through
And it's a-hard to be a lover when you say you're only in it for fun
Playing with the queen of hearts, knowing it ain't really smart
The joker ain't the only fool who'll do anything for you

CHORUS
Playing with the queen of hearts

http://www.lyricsdepot.com/juice-newton/queen-of-hearts.html

If you have a Heavy Heart?

If you have a Heavy Heart?

Judger or Perceiver

This category deals with how we orient our lives. Judgers are structured, ordered, scheduled, and on-time. They are the list makers. Judgers wake up every morning with a definite plan for the day, and become very upset when the plan becomes unraveled. Even free time is scheduled. Perceivers, on the other hand, rely on creativity, spontaneity, and responsiveness, rather than a plan or list, to get them through the day. They burn the midnight oil to meet deadlines, although they usually meet them. Perceivers like to turn work into play, because if a task is not fun, they reason, it is probably not worth doing.

Experts say that this personality type difference is the most significant source of tension in the workplace and in group work. Perceivers prefer to keep gathering information rather than to draw conclusions. Judgers prefer to make decisions, often ignoring new information that might change that decision. Hence, the conflict. The authors of the book contend that a good balance of judgers and perceivers are necessary for a well-functioning work group. Judgers need light-hearted perceivers to make them relax, and perceivers need structured judgers to keep things organized and reach closure on projects.

http://www.personalitytest.net/types/definitions.htm#judging

Nanny v The Wolfman

The term "Nanny State" was probably coined by the Conservative British MP Iain Macleod who wrote "what I like to call the nanny state . . ." in his column "Quoodle" in the December 3, 1965 edition of The Spectator.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nanny_State

Nanny v the Wolfman

The alternative to the Nanny State is the Wolfman agenda, where the largest gang run by the top Dog rules, and they prey on the helpless and the talented.

Moral: beware of the Wolf in Sheep's clothing.

Chapter 20

The heavy petting scene: to be elaborated

Dragon and Little Bear

Elimination

Summary:

Skullduggery: incredibly effective method of eliminating opponents. The worse bit is the unconsciousness and concussion which renders the target incapacitated, and the ensuing trauma is rather confusing (like being drunk).

Tracking; following the opponent around and mucking up his act at every opportunity. Effective against a shy person like me, but it would be labour intensive against the more troublesome adversaries. Apparently, this system works against active violent criminals in the community.

Ostracisation: this gaslighting method is highly successful.

Smear Campaign: this denigration method is highly successful.

Stalking Horse: if this incurs the Grip, probably a very successful method.

Whores: this just incurs confusion, and is a waste of time.

Falling Star (Way Back in 1984)

This dates back to 1984 when I could still play the game
(I do not actually feel that I have crashed still time around -yet. Just not there. Not sure where there is though!)

Catch a falling star and put it in your pocket
Never let it fade away
Catch a falling star and put it in your pocket
Save it for a rainy day

For love may come and tap you on the shoulder some starless night
Just in case you feel you want to hold her
You'll have a pocketful of starlight
Catch a falling star and put it in your pocket
Never let it fade away
Catch a falling star and put it in your pocket
Save it for a rainy day
For love may come and tap you on the shoulder some starless night
Just in case you feel you want to hold her
You'll have a pocketful of starlight ...
Pocketful of starlight, hm,hm,hm,hm,hm,hm

Catch a falling star and put it in your pocket
Never let it fade away
Catch a falling star and put it in your pocket
Save it for a rainy day
Save it for a rainy, save it for a rainy, rainy, rainy, day
For when your troubles start multiplyin' and they just might
It's easy to forget them without tryin'
With just a pocketful of starlight
Catch a falling star and put it in your pocket
Never let it fade away
Catch a falling star and put it in your pocket
Save it for a rainy day
Save it for a rainy day
Save it for a rainy day

http://susie1114.com/Fallingstar.html

World of Warcraft

World of Warcraft

http://www.worldofwarcraft.com/info/races/
This game seems to use a toned down version of the Dungeon & Dragons characters.

Poison & Venom

poison pz()n n., a., & adv. ME. [OFr. puison, (also mod.) poison (in OFr. = magic potion) f. L potio(n-) POTION.] A n. 1 A medicinal draught, a potion, esp. one prepared with a harmful drug or ingredient; an ingredient of a potion etc. Long obs. exc. as below. ME. 2 Matter which causes death or injury when introduced into or absorbed by a living organism, irrespective of mechanical means or direct thermal changes, esp. when able to kill by rapid action and when taken in a small quantity; a particular substance of this kind. ME. b Alcoholic liquor; an alcoholic drink. colloq. (orig. US). E19. 3 fig. a A doctrine, influence, etc., considered to be harmful to character, morality, or public order. Also, something which is detested. ME. b An undesirable or detested person or persons. E20. 4 a Chem. A substance which destroys or reduces the activity of a catalyst. E20. b A fission product, impurity, or additive in a nuclear reactor which interacts with neutrons and thus slows the intended reaction. M20.

e.g. the pharmaceuticals dispensed by the Psi Cops.


venom venm n., a., & v. ME. [(O)Fr. venim, venin, f. Proto-Romance alt. (after L wds in -imen) of L venenum potion, drug, poison. For the change of final n to m cf. pilgrim.] A n. 1 A poisonous fluid secreted by certain snakes, spiders, scorpions, etc. and usu. injected by them into other animals by means of a bite or sting. ME. 2 Poison, esp. as administered to or drunk by a person; any poisonous or noxious substance, preparation, or property; a microbial toxin. Now rare or obs. ME. 3 fig. Malignant or malicious character or quality; virulent feeling, language, behaviour, etc.; malice, spite. Also, an instance of this. ME. b A malicious or spiteful person or animal. obs. exc. Sc. & dial. L16. 4 A (type of) poison or toxin. LME. 5 A dye. rare. LME-M16.
3 V. NABOKOV The thick venom of envy began squirting at me.

In Modern Animism (Phoenix version), poison is spread by contamination by Mice (ISFJ) and Rats (ISXJ). Venom is injected mainly by Snakes (ENTP) and their targets are usually the afromentioned Rodents by active predation, but any other animal defensively if they get in each other's way, but the animal most often spooked is the Horse (ESFJ). Dogs (ISTJ) get bitten, if they are too adventurous.

Malignant Animism

The Mouse (ISFJ) tends to contaminate (by accident) with gossip because it has not got a critical facility and believes everything told to her. The Weasel (ENFJ) is the malignant version of the Ferret who spreads lies not caring whether they are true or not, the Vulture sounds like the malignant component of me (INTP) and I know from other comments that they may prey on the dead and damaged rather than living prey. There are plenty of Hawks/Owls (INTJ) like that.

The Snake (ENTP) is very interesting because they tend to bring out the true characters of the Other. Great, if things are positive, but the negative type tends to explode, and they will spook the Horse (ESFJ) who naturally feels the need to be in control.

It is not surprising that some people chose a Detached existential position which is Shy/Avoidant/Eccentric/Schizotypal because in the milieu, somebody might explode. I think the Horse (ESFJ) on Inferior Function (Critical Stress) is the Berserker or Crazy Horse. There does not seem to be any way to escape these nutters. Beware! I think the Goat is a ram-raider.

Tip: If you are a Snake do NOT go to the Ceremony of the Horsemen, you are not wanted. Alas, the Ferrets (INFJ) may attend, although it makes them sad.

Tip 2: If you are an Eagle (INTP) do NOT go to the Teddy Bears Picnic, as you cannot function in the woods, and the baby Bears caught out in the open are really small fry.
Many of the intuitive types refuse to play the Earthling games, even the Musical Chairs. Butterflies (ESFP) are Rainy Day playthings. Stone Free in the morning.

Seven Hundred Elves

Seven Hundred Elves

Cho:

Seven hundred elves from out the wood
Foul and grim they were
Down to the farmer's house they went
His meat and drink to share

There was a farmer in the west and there he chose his ground
He thought to spend the winter there and brought his hawk and hound
He brought with him both hound and cock alone he begged to stay
And all the deer that roamed the wood had cause to rue the day

He felled the oak, he felled the birch, the beech nor poplar spared
And much was grieved the sullen elves at what the stranger dared
He hewed him baulks and he hewed him beams with eager toil and haste
Then up and spake the woodland elves: ``Who's come our wood to waste?''

Up and spake the biggest elf and grimly rolled his eyes:
"We'll march upon the farmer's house and hold on him assize
He's knocking down both wood and bower, he shows us great distain
We'll make him rue the day he was born and taste of shame and pain.''

All the elves from out the wood began to dance and spring
And marched towards the farmer's house their lengthy tails to swing
The farmer from his window looked and quickly crossed his breast
"Oh woe is me,'' the farmer cried, "The elves will be my guests.''

In every nook he made a cross and all about the room
And off flew many a frightened elf back to his forest gloom
Some flew to the east, some flew to the west, some flew to the north away
And some flew down the deep ravine and there forever stay

(as recorded by Steeleye Span)

http://sniff.numachi.com/pages/tiELVES.html

Marzipan Dragon

We all have personality disorders now
Nick Cohen
Published 11 July 2005
http://www.newstatesman.com/200507110021

If you're happy or sad, neat or messy, outgoing or withdrawn, you've got a symptom. Nick Cohen argues that psychiatry has expanded by pathologising everyday life.

Comment:
Social functioning is not based on truth#, but on the success rate. A diagnosis of Eccentricity or Schizotypal is valid if repeated often enough. On the Millon Spinning Top this the Detached Existential position is no guarantee of forecasting what the Other will do so it is effectively useless as a measure of truth, and is just a tendency.
(#The truth is Wensleydale with Cranberries is made with poor quality cheese, but it tastes good all the same. Therefore it may be eaten repeatedly. Likewise, the Marzipan Dragon INFP may get gobbled up at the feeding grounds.)

Suppose, the Schizotypal Eccentric Disorder is re-described as the Information Deficit Disorder. Then if the disordered person is give the information he needs (not continually lied to by the Bullies*) he can therefore adjust his existential position and become Discordant (Assertive-Sadistic) or whatever. It may be that sadists tend to attack eccentrics. So in the presence of a sadist, it may be best policy to act in another manner, narcissist or skeptical. If you notice that the twat is there at all, which an eccentric might not.

(*Bureaucrats are often Bullies ESTJ and they can only operate if they are given the functional inadequate information pertaining to their role. Their Judgement restriction does not allow them time to listen to your arguments. This behaviour may become ingrained after a lifetime of paper shuffling.)

To get educated about people, personal relations and emotional intelligence, is gaining the necessary information to navigate (girl guide) through the realms of personal and political relations.

In other words the Millon Map is faulty and so are all the conclusions drawn from it. And all the Personality Disorder theory as well. It is a game where psychologists can rip off the taxpayer. This is the Ambivalent Skeptical position, he said with a lack of Exuberance.

My interpretation is that a malignant Narcissist does not have to behave like he does. All the examples I have suffered from indicates it is a life-long affliction. Maybe, it requires psychic energy to behave in another way. One way would be to use a Statistical Syllogism to forecast the probability of an Eccentric or Sadist to continue to operate in his preferred Personality Disorder under set parameters. Or when the Eccentric would act Melancholic or Timorous, or the Sadist act Explosive-Contrite or Tyrannical.

It is best to treat others as human beings rather than sex objects or slave operating commodities. It requires more effort though. Negative emotions recharge quicker than positive ones.

Chapter 19: Highway Blues

Highway Blues
But think about how you’d feel if you were avoiding a near-accident every few minutes. Your body doesn’t have time to recover. That’s exactly what happens when you are dealing with a workplace bully. Never knowing when the bully will attack, your body is in a state of constant readiness, your “fight or flight” reactions are activated, and your body is experiencing continuous wear and tear.
http://www.bullyfreeatwork.com/blog/?page_id=10

I feel like I am cycling at a diagonal across a busy motorway, when the drivers mostly don't care, and ones that do care inadvertently catch me in their draught by coming too close, and just as many are out to deliberately kill me. So I have no room for mistakes.
Moreover, I am not sure of my destination, just exhausted trying to keep alive. And then the auction candle drops and all bets are off like a nuclear explosion.
I can't return home because it is not yet burned but a disaster zone, and I am not sure what is on the other side.

Chapter 18

Change is now. As a result of peculiar circumstances, people will be compelled to change their attitudes and behaviour. Not on your nelly, they won't and that probably includes me as well. They just keep it hidden and secretive and pursue the same old tactical agenda. Actually, this mainly consists of veiled threats,deliberate lies, actual threats, agents lying/acting on their behalf. The rational person (like me) may decide on the possible strategic outcome from certain actions.

The trouble is that because of the awful local employment situation,and because of the smear and intimidation campaign, actual opportunities are rather exiguous. Not helped by my low spirits because my needs/wants are not being catered for. I have decided that I do not want to be a garret writer at all. It is too lonely and poorly paid. It might be forced upon me though, but at the moment I have not got an isolated watchtower. In fact, I have been invaded by noxious and toxic presences intermittently and often persistently.

I think they know that the targets all give up with exhaustion or commit suicide. The stress forces out of character behaviour, which is a more rational reaction than jumping off a bridge (Horseman Attack). Or venture into the woods on a overdose (Picnic Controller Attack).

Bester and Psi Corps will not allow free agents (called rogues). I was even ambushed by a Black Glove. I saw it coming, but I Did not have the support to counteract the move.They might want me to join the Psi Corps. Satan has the pay the rent.

Malignant (Bully) Control Freak or a Difficult Person ?

Malignant (Bully) Control Freak or a Difficult Person ?

Here’s the difference:

Bullying is repeated, deliberate, disrespectful behavior toward another for the bully’s gratification. Workplace bullying is deliberate; not accidental. Difficult people may or may not be deliberate; they may be unaware. Bullies are out for self-gratification. Difficult people are not necessarily out to harm another; they are out to protect their own needs. You can possibly reason and negotiate with a difficult person. You cannot reason or negotiate with a workplace bully. Most people/targets want to hold on to the belief that people are basically good, and that they would therefore receive feedback well if approached. We somehow think “If I just say it this way” or if I bring them a coffee … then… they’ll come around. Most bosses, in their attempt to help an employee with a bullying situation or difficult person situation, often offer this advice: “Treat them the way you want to be treated”; extend the olive branch and they’ll somehow come around. This influencing strategy can work – but only with minor difficult situations where the difficult person has a healthy enough self image to be able to receive kindness in order to come around. Let me be clear – influencing works with the good natured but over-worked and perhaps situationally stressed individual whose heart is seeking a win-win. Now that you know this, you can try this influencing strategy of extending the Olive Branch, but do not expect results when dealing with bullying behavior. If you face moderate difficult behavior, and in some very rare cases of minor bullying, you can approach the person with a Crucial Conversation http://www.bullyfreeatwork.com/blog/wp-admin/post.php?action=edit&post=62.

The Crucial Conversation is an attempt to reach out and share what you need/want, with the hope of receiving agreement back. Note: Many people get confused here. If you are certain you are facing a bully, this influencing strategy will not work – you cannot rationalize with a bully, and attempting to open up a dialogue will only expose you. Also, note that workplace bullying requires an intervention where you are clear; you state what you want as opposed to asking and trying to come to a win-win resolution. However, if you are not certain you are in a bullying situation and you are hesitant as to your approach to influence or use an intervention, you could: Try the Crucial Conversation Influencing Strategy – if it works, you have a difficult person situation. If it doesn’t work, you may have a bullying situation, where they are only interested in retaliating and aiming to control you once you are exposed. At least you will know. If you know this is Bullying Behavior (bullying behavior is deliberate, not accidental, disrespectful, repeated behavior towards an individual that the bully derives pleasure from hurting), then proceed to intervention – Do not pass Go, do not collect $200… Lastly, remember, once you identify the bullying behavior, fully internalize that you cannot reach out and rationalize with a bully.

Extract in the public interest from:

http://www.bullyfreeatwork.com/blog/